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The High Cost of Friendship: When Weddings Become a Financial Burden

As I approach my 30th birthday, I’ve come to realize that I’ve spent a staggering amount of money on other people’s weddings. In the past three years alone, I’ve been to seven weddings, served as a bridesmaid three times, and attended four bachelorette parties. The total cost? A whopping $5,000.

The Financial Toll of Being a Good Friend

It’s not just the cost of dresses, flights, and hotels that adds up; it’s the pressure to participate in elaborate wedding festivities that can be overwhelming. I’ve had to shell out money for “casual dressy” dresses that somehow cost the same as “actually dressy” ones. And let’s not forget the gifts, incidentals, and miscellaneous expenses that come with being a good friend.

The Resentment Builds

As a single person, I can’t help but feel resentful about the money I’ve spent on others’ relationships. I’ve made conscious choices to focus on my career and travel, but somehow, I’ve still managed to spend a significant portion of my income on weddings. It’s hard not to feel bitter when I think about how I could have used that money for something more meaningful to me.

The Wedding Industrial Complex

The culture of weddings has become increasingly extravagant, with couples expecting their friends and family to shell out big bucks to celebrate their special day. It’s a phenomenon that I’ve come to despise. Who hasn’t been forced to wear an ugly bridesmaid dress, smile for photos, and dance to cheesy music? The pressure to conform to these expectations is suffocating.

A Call for Consciousness

I’m not suggesting that we abolish weddings altogether. But I do think it’s time for us to be more mindful of the financial burden we’re placing on our loved ones. If you want to have an extravagant wedding, consider limiting the guest list to those who can afford it. Or, put some of your budget towards accommodations and other expenses that will make it easier for your guests to attend.

Don’t Be That Person

Ultimately, it’s about being considerate of others’ financial situations. Don’t expect your friends to break the bank to celebrate your special day. Be kind, be thoughtful, and don’t be an asshole. Your friends will thank you.