She Strengthens

The Myth of “Doing What You Love”

I still remember the idyllic spring day in 2011 when my college poetry professor shared a piece of wisdom that would shape my perspective on career choices. As we sat on the lawn, surrounded by cherry blossoms, she urged us to pursue our passions, assuring us that the money would follow. This mantra was repeated throughout my undergraduate years, and I, like many others, bought into it hook, line, and sinker.

The Reality Check

Fast forward to 2012, when I graduated with a double major in two subjects often deemed “useless.” I soon discovered that my idealistic views on artistic integrity didn’t quite align with the harsh realities of the job market. My parents’ advice to focus on financial independence seemed dull and uncreative compared to the allure of pursuing my passions. But, as I struggled to make ends meet, I realized that “experience” and “exposure” weren’t accepted forms of currency by my landlord.

The Corporate Conundrum

I landed a full-time job as a marketing writer for a corporation, which felt like selling out to my idealistic self. I procrastinated on financial planning, feeling overwhelmed by the responsibilities that came with adulthood. Meanwhile, my friends were pursuing MFAs or traveling the world, and I couldn’t help but feel envious of their seemingly carefree existence.

A Shift in Perspective

As I delved deeper into my job and eventually pursued a Master’s degree, I began to see the value in broadening my horizons and taking responsibility for my finances. I stopped worrying about what others thought of my career choices and started deriving enjoyment from the sense of accomplishment that came with completing tasks. I learned to appreciate the independence my job afforded me, even if it wasn’t my dream job.

The “Artistic Cult” Mentality

The “do what you love and the money will follow” mantra started to seem like dangerous nonsense. It’s a mentality that can mess up someone’s life, especially when imposed on impressionable students. The pressure to pursue one’s passions at all costs is absurd and irresponsible. It’s essential to find balance between cultivating skills you enjoy and pursuing a career that will pay the bills.

A Newfound Appreciation

Today, I’m grateful for my parents’ wisdom and the circumstantial luck that helped me avoid blindly following my passions into financial ruin. I wish I could tell all soon-to-be graduates that striving for financial independence is not something to be ashamed of. It’s okay to look for a “real job” that may not be your dream job, but will provide stability and security. Through hard work and determination, you’ll find true satisfaction in reaping the rewards, financial and otherwise.