She Strengthens

Embracing Life on My Own Terms

Living life to the fullest is my top priority. I’ve never been driven to climb the corporate ladder or chase a six-figure salary. My happiness stems from simple pleasures like reading, writing, cooking, traveling, and spending time with loved ones. I’ve chosen a low-impact job at an art cooperative in a major city, which allows me to earn a modest income of around $29,000 per year.

My Path to Financial Freedom

I’ve been fortunate to have had relationships that have enabled me to live a rich life without breaking the bank. During my undergraduate studies, I had a sugar daddy who supported me financially, allowing me to graduate debt-free. After we parted ways, I met someone who earned a substantial income and was happy to cover my expenses. This arrangement allowed me to save aggressively and contribute to my retirement fund.

After that relationship ended, I entered into another sugar daddy arrangement, which helped me add nearly $50,000 to my savings and investments within a year. I was mindful of maintaining my independence and always had a backup plan in place.

My Current Relationship

I’m now in a long-term relationship with a man who earns a good income. While he covers most of our shared expenses, I’m clear about maintaining a level of financial separation. I have secret accounts, a backup plan, and will be cautious when we move in together soon. I know that having a financial safety net is crucial to maintaining my independence.

The Power of Independence

Many women, including friends, have criticized my choices, calling them oppressive and retrograde. However, I believe that money is a tool that can be used to enhance our lives. My goal has never been to earn a high income, but to live a life of comfort and passion. I’ve worked hard to build a nest egg, which gives me the freedom to make choices that align with my values.

Rethinking Traditional Feminism

I don’t think it’s fair to shame women who choose to be financially supported by their partners. Why should they have to join a rat race they don’t want to if someone else is willing to provide for them? Of course, it’s essential to maintain control over one’s choices and have protection in place to retain independence. But labeling a woman who receives financial support as “unfeminist” is unproductive. Life is about making smart choices that bring us joy and fulfillment.

Living Life on My Own Terms

For me, living life to the fullest means embracing my desires and making conscious choices. I want to savor every moment, indulge in sensory pleasures, and pursue my passions. I’m grateful to have found a path that works for me, and I refuse to feel ashamed about it.