She Strengthens

Finding Fulfillment Beyond Financial Security

As a practical person, I’ve always been driven to make smart financial decisions. My mom, the most pragmatic person I know, instilled in me the importance of being responsible with my finances. This mindset led me to pursue a marketable degree and focus on paying off debt instead of traveling the world. However, I’ve come to realize that there’s more to life than just financial security.

The Limits of Pragmatism

While I’m aware of my finances, I don’t want to be so focused on a financial goal or career milestone that I miss out on life’s precious moments. I’ve learned that prioritizing financial security can lead to sacrificing happiness in relationships. In the past, I dated men who made a good income, but ultimately, they weren’t a good match for me. They offered financial stability, but at the cost of my happiness.

Rethinking Priorities

It took me a while to realize that I was settling for a lifestyle instead of focusing on what truly mattered. I began to look for men who were hard workers, curious, kind, honest, and supportive. My current boyfriend, an artist, embodies these qualities. He may not make a lot of money, but he brings me joy and fulfillment.

A Shift in Perspective

Being with someone who doesn’t have a high income has forced me to reevaluate my perception of success. I’ve learned to focus on fulfillment rather than financial gain. My boyfriend’s happiness comes from pursuing his passions, not from a high-paying job. I’d rather see him happy than miserable in a lucrative career.

Embracing Self-Reliance

Being with someone who doesn’t make a lot of money has also taught me the value of self-reliance. Instead of relying on someone else for financial security, I’ve taken control of my own financial future. I’ve had to make sacrifices, but they’re worth it to know that I’m securing my own future.

Achieving Financial Goals

I’ve made significant progress in my financial journey, including building a three-month emergency fund and paying off my personal debts. I’ve learned that I can accomplish my goals without setting a minimum income requirement for the men I date.

A Brighter Future

The future I envision with my boyfriend may not be the one I pictured earlier, but it’s one that I’m excited about. I’ve learned that being open to love is more important than financial gain. Pragmatism has its place, but happiness is what truly matters.