She Strengthens

The Weight of Privilege

Growing up, I always felt a sense of unease about my family’s wealth. I didn’t want to be seen as one of those entitled rich kids who flaunted their privilege without a care in the world. My parents instilled in me a sense of gratitude for our comfortable lifestyle, but I still worried about being judged by others.

Fear of Labeling

I remember watching movies like “Clueless” and “Legally Blonde” and thinking, “I don’t want to be like those characters.” I didn’t want people to assume I was spoiled or oblivious to my privilege just because of my family’s wealth. So, I made a conscious effort to be mindful of my spending habits, even when my parents were footing the bill. I’d ask my mom how much she was spending on my Christmas gifts, and I’d avoid wearing expensive clothing or accessories that might draw attention to myself.

The Irony of Affluence

The irony was that I lived in an affluent neighborhood where many of my classmates came from wealthy families. It was almost expected that we’d have the latest gadgets, designer clothes, and luxury cars. But I didn’t want to be seen as part of that crowd. My fear of being labeled as a rich kid slowly dissipated as I realized that my parents weren’t the type to flaunt their wealth.

College Life and the Fear of Judgment

Now that I’m in college, my fear of being judged has resurfaced. I still receive financial support from my parents, and I worry that if people find out, they’ll assume I’m spoiled or entitled. I’ve started to avoid certain behaviors or purchases that might give away my family’s wealth. I’ve forgone wearing expensive jackets, avoided shopping at high-end stores, and even use my mom’s old Coach purse to blend in.

The Desire to Be Seen Beyond My Privilege

At the end of the day, I just want to be seen as more than my family’s wealth. I don’t want people to assume I’ve never worked hard or earned anything myself just because of my upbringing. I want my friends to get to know me beyond the surface level, to see that I’m more than just a rich kid. I’m not ashamed of my parents’ money, but I don’t want it to define me.