She Strengthens

The Hidden Messages Behind Engagement Rings

As I stepped into the elevator, I couldn’t help but glance down at my left hand. My engagement ring, a symbol of love and commitment, was momentarily hidden from view, safely tucked away in my purse. It wasn’t the first time I’d removed it for a work-related event, and it certainly wouldn’t be the last.

A Symbol of Love, or Something More?

When I got engaged in 2014, I didn’t think much about the implications of wearing an engagement ring. To me, it was a beautiful symbol of my relationship. However, as I transitioned into a new work environment, I began to realize that my ring was more than just a symbol of love – it was a marker of wealth and status.

Unwanted Attention and Assumptions

Over the years, I’ve encountered numerous comments about my ring that have made me feel uncomfortable and insecure. People have asked about the size of the diamond, made assumptions about my husband’s wealth, and even questioned my commitment to my work. These comments, often made in a professional setting, have forced me to wonder if people take me seriously.

The Double Standard of Engagement Rings

Engagement rings come in all shapes and sizes, but they all carry a certain level of significance. While men’s wedding bands are often simple and understated, women’s engagement rings are often seen as a status symbol. This double standard can lead to unfair assumptions and biases, particularly in the workplace.

The Consequences of Wearing an Engagement Ring at Work

Research suggests that wearing an engagement ring at work can have consequences, regardless of its size. Some studies have shown that women who wear large engagement rings may be perceived as high maintenance or less committed to their jobs. This kind of thinking can be dangerous, affecting one’s career advancement and treatment in the workplace.

Navigating the Complexities

It’s unfortunate that women have to think about the signals their ring might be sending, while men don’t face the same scrutiny. A simple compliment or observation can be taken the wrong way, revealing insecurities or confirming stereotypes. To navigate this complex issue, we need to be more conscious of our comments and focus on seeing people for who they are, rather than their material possessions.

A Call to Action

In the end, I believe that no one should feel ashamed of wearing an engagement ring, and it shouldn’t define who they are in the workplace. By being discreet, respectful, and mindful of our comments, we can reduce the pressure on women to have a certain type of ring and focus on what truly matters – their work and character.