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Rethinking Celebrations: Valentine’s Day and Weddings

As we mark Valentine’s Day, it’s hard not to think about the commercialism and societal pressures that come with it. But amidst the chaos, there’s something to be said for taking a day to celebrate love and relationships. My approach? Embracing the good while sidestepping the unnecessary stress and expense.

A Personal Take on Weddings

As someone who’s recently gotten engaged, I’ve been reflecting on the wedding planning process. For Marc and me, it’s about keeping things intimate and low-key. We’re opting for a small ceremony with close friends and family, followed by a fun gathering with our loved ones. No fancy dresses, registries, or over-the-top decor for us – just good food, great wine, and quality time with the people we care about.

Breaking Free from Tradition

I’ve noticed that many women struggle to separate harmless traditions from outdated, gendered norms. For me, it’s essential to challenge these conventions and create a celebration that truly reflects our values. That means ditching the idea of being “given” away, rejecting the notion that women must conform to certain expectations, and focusing on what really matters: equality, love, and community.

The High Cost of Celebrations

The Wedding Industrial Complex is a significant part of the problem. With the average American wedding costing a staggering $31,000, it’s clear that something needs to change. This amount of money could be used to pay off student debt, invest in a home, or support meaningful causes. By redefining what a wedding can be, we can break free from the pressure to overspend and focus on what truly matters.

Doing Things on Your Own Terms

One of the most surprising things about wedding planning has been how easy it is to buck tradition when you’re clear and direct about your intentions. By being upfront about our small, intimate celebration, we’ve avoided unnecessary stress and pressure from others. It’s a valuable lesson: when you own your decisions and communicate them confidently, you can create a celebration that truly reflects your values and priorities.