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Embracing Independence on Valentine’s Day

As I prepare to celebrate my first Valentine’s Day in a relationship, I’m reminded of the joys of being single. While I’m excited to spend the evening with my partner, I also want to acknowledge the perks of flying solo.

The Freedom of Solo Living

Growing up, I never felt sorry for myself on Valentine’s Day, but I did notice how the holiday can be tough on singles. The constant bombardment of romantic imagery can be overwhelming, making it seem like a romantic relationship is the ultimate goal. However, being single has its advantages. Without the burden of pleasing someone else, I was able to focus on myself and discover my own independence.

The Fun of Being Single

Looking back, I realize that being single allowed me to do things I may not have done otherwise. I could fall asleep watching Netflix without worrying about disturbing anyone, drink wine and swipe through friends’ Tinder accounts, and scope out free events and activities around the city. I even enjoyed volunteering at a local non-profit bookstore, which led to meeting new people and scoring free snacks and drinks.

Morning Movies and Phone-Free Adventures

One of my favorite things to do as a single person was to catch morning movies at discounted prices. I’d sneak in my own snacks and enjoy the quiet, almost-empty theater. I also loved taking long breaks from my phone, whether it was reading on the train or taking a solo walk on the beach. The freedom to do whatever I wanted, without needing to check in with anyone, was exhilarating.

Guilty Pleasures and Creative Pursuits

As a single person, I could indulge in my favorite foods without judgment, like eating turkey corndogs and mac and cheese for days on end. I also had more time to devote to craft projects, like collaging and making linoleum prints. While I still enjoy these activities, I don’t have as much time for them now.

Valentine’s Day Reflections

As I celebrate this Valentine’s Day with my partner, I’m reminded that being single isn’t inherently better or worse than being in a relationship. Both have their perks and drawbacks. Today, I’m choosing to acknowledge the independence and freedom that came with being single, and to appreciate the unique joys of each stage of life.