She Strengthens

Crafting a Life: Lessons Learned from Misguided Decisions

As I reflect on my early adult years, I realize that I’ve been trying to manufacture the perfect life. I’ve read books, watched TV, and observed those around me, creating a mental blueprint of how I thought my life should unfold. However, this approach has led to a series of misguided decisions that left me feeling lost and unhappy.

The College Conundrum

I enrolled in college without giving it a second thought, simply because it was expected of me. I didn’t take the time to consider what I wanted to study or where I wanted my life to go. I wish I had paused to think about my goals before investing in a degree.

Major Identity Crisis

I changed my major multiple times, swayed by the opinions of others. I let professors, family members, and even a “cool music guy” influence my decisions. I should have been driven by my own interests and passions, not external validation.

Yoga Teacher Training: A Lesson in Direction

I attended a yoga teacher training program, which was a great experience, but I didn’t think it through. I was vulnerable to impulsive decisions, and I didn’t consider how I would use the certification. I wish I had taken the program at a later stage in my life, when I had a clearer direction.

The Rush to Independence

I attempted to move out before age 20, driven by a desire to prove my financial independence. However, I wasn’t prepared, and everything fell through. I learned that I needed to focus on realistic goals, like finishing my degree and saving for my own car. Now, I own a car and live comfortably.

Traveling Abroad: A Lesson in Priorities

I went on a trip to Ireland and England with my best friend, but I couldn’t afford it. I wish I had saved my money and traveled when I was ready, with the means to enjoy it. The trip was partly motivated by a desire to impress my ex, which added to the sense of regret.

Reflections and Regrets

Looking back, I realize that I made decisions based on what I thought I should do, rather than what I truly wanted. I wish I had taken the time to understand my own desires and priorities. These experiences have taught me valuable lessons about the importance of self-reflection, direction, and responsible decision-making.