She Strengthens

Breaking Free from Financial Dependence

Growing up, I was fortunate enough to have a comfortable upbringing, thanks to my parents’ hard work and dedication. This allowed me to focus on my education and personal growth, without worrying about making ends meet. However, as I entered adulthood, I realized that not everyone shared the same privilege. My parents’ financial security was not the norm, and I felt a strong desire to establish my own independence.

The Quest for Autonomy

I’ve always had a strong need to prove myself self-sufficient. I wanted to stand on my own two feet, without relying on my family’s financial safety net. This drive for autonomy led me to take bold steps, like moving out of my parents’ house and getting my first job. However, this journey wasn’t without its challenges.

Swallowing Pride: Four Times I Needed Help

Despite my best efforts, there were instances where I had to put aside my pride and ask my dad for financial assistance. Here are four times I had to do so:

1. The First Rent Payment

In my eagerness to move out, I didn’t prepare adequately for my first rent payment. With my paycheck still a week away, I had to ask my dad to cover the cost. It was a humbling experience, but necessary to avoid falling behind on my responsibilities.

2. A Costly Prescription

When I switched psychiatrists, I was faced with a hefty bill for a new medication. With my insurance deductible, the cost was almost $300 – a sum I couldn’t afford. My dad stepped in, covering the expense and helping me navigate the complex world of insurance deductibles.

3. Eye Care Expenses

Annual eye exams can be costly, especially when you need new glasses and contacts. With my health savings account depleted, I had to ask my dad for help. He generously offered to cover the expense, saving me from a significant financial burden.

4. The Unexpected Car Tax Bill

Property taxes can be confusing, and I was caught off guard by a whopping $416 bill. Without the funds to cover it, I turned to my dad for assistance. His help allowed me to avoid financial stress and stay on top of my car payments.

Lessons Learned

While asking for help was difficult, it taught me valuable lessons about humility, gratitude, and the importance of financial planning. I’ve come to realize that true independence is not about avoiding help, but about knowing when to ask for it. By acknowledging my limitations and seeking support when needed, I’ve grown both personally and financially.