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The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Negotiate a Raise

From Disappointment to Triumph

When I landed my first job as a junior copywriter, I was ecstatic. The salary of $32,000 per year seemed like a fortune compared to my previous minimum-wage gigs. However, as I gained more experience and insight into the working world, I began to realize that my salary was, in fact, quite modest. The final straw came when a coworker received a $10,000 raise without taking on additional responsibilities. I felt undervalued and entitled to more.

The First Pitch: A Lesson in Humility

I went into my first annual review with a chip on my shoulder, determined to ask for a raise that would put me on par with my coworker. Unfortunately, my pitch was fueled by bitterness and entitlement rather than a solid case for my worth. I didn’t get the raise, and my disappointment turned to bitterness.

Turning Disappointment into Ambition

In the months that followed, I channeled my disappointment into ambition. I realized that I had made mistakes in my first pitch and set out to learn from them. I focused on making a stronger case for myself, and a year later, I asked for a raise again – this time, a 28% increase that would bring my salary more in line with market value. And I got it.

The Four Lessons I Learned

1. Patience is a Virtue

It’s essential to give yourself time to grow into your role, gain confidence, and make accomplishments that demonstrate your worth. In your first year, you show promise; in your second and third year, you show results.

2. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

Comparing yourself to others can lead to feelings of frustration and entitlement. Instead, focus on your own worth, skills, and accomplishments. What is your job worth in the market, and what value do you bring to the company?

3. Know Your Worth

Knowing your worth is crucial in any negotiation. Research the market value for your job title, and be confident in your personal worth. This will give you the courage to walk into your manager’s office and ask for what you’re worth.

4. Persistence Pays Off

Asking for a raise takes courage, and it’s essential to follow through even if you’re turned down initially. Use the opportunity to start a conversation with your manager about creating a growth plan that will move you toward your salary goal.

The Power of Confidence and Preparation

Negotiating a raise is not just about the number; it’s about believing in your worth and being prepared to make your case. Work hard, raise your hand for opportunities, know your worth, and always ask for a raise for the right reasons. With confidence, preparation, and persistence, you’ll eventually taste the sweet thrill of a raise.