She Strengthens

Embracing the Suburbs: A Journey of Self-Discovery

As a high-achieving university student, I always thought I’d escape the fate of moving back home after graduation. I envisioned a life of independence, with a puppy, a trendy apartment, and a vibrant social circle in the city. But nine months out of university, reality hit me hard. I had to consider moving back in with my mom in the suburbs – a prospect that terrified me.

The Stigma of Moving Back Home

Living with parents is no longer a taboo. According to Statistics Canada, over one-third of young adults aged 20 to 34 live with at least one parent. While I know many people who do it, I thought my determination would keep me out of what I considered a “trap.” But as I faced the possibility of moving back home, I realized it challenged my identities and values.

Breaking Through Fear and Trepidation

As I sat down to address my concerns, I began to see the suburbs in a new light. I realized that my relationship with my mom had transformed into something healthy, respectful, and loving. She would welcome me back with open arms, and I’d have the opportunity to save money, focus on my goals, and prioritize my well-being.

The Benefits of Suburban Living

I calculated my potential savings and realized that living in the suburbs would allow me to achieve my financial goals faster. I could save for a down payment on a condo, take vacations, and build a stable emergency fund. I also considered the benefits of living close to nature, having access to a car, and being able to pursue my passions, such as gardening, boxing, and hiking.

Reframing My Expectations

I had to let go of my city snobbery and acknowledge that living in the suburbs wouldn’t be the end of the world. In fact, it could be a great opportunity to focus on myself, my goals, and my values. I realized that my community didn’t have to be limited to the city; I could build connections and relationships in the suburbs as well.

A New Chapter

Moving back home isn’t a failure; it’s a chance to reassess my priorities and focus on what truly matters. I’m grateful for the opportunity to regroup, recharge, and set myself up for a more stable, happy, and secure future. As I look forward to this new chapter, I’m excited to explore the suburbs, pursue my passions, and build a life that aligns with my values.