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The Hidden Costs of Being a Bridesmaid

Being part of a bridal party is a significant honor, but it comes with a price tag that can be staggering. From hair and makeup to dresses and destination bachelorette parties, the expenses can quickly add up. Three bridesmaids share their experiences and the financial burdens they’ve shouldered to stand by their friends on their big day.

A Financial Burden

“I’ve spent close to $3,000 on a single wedding,” says one bridesmaid from Chicago. “The costs are overwhelming, and I feel obligated to buy gifts for every occasion.” Another bridesmaid from South Carolina estimates she’s spent between $1,660 and $1,800 on two weddings, including dress alterations, hair and makeup, and travel expenses.

Lack of Communication

Many bridesmaids wish the bride had initiated conversations about costs earlier on. “I wish she had asked about my budget instead of assuming I was comfortable with all these expenses,” says a bridesmaid from New Jersey. “It feels like someone is telling you how to spend your money, and it’s frustrating not having more autonomy.”

Breaking Down the Costs

Here’s a breakdown of the typical expenses associated with being a bridesmaid:

• Bachelorette party: $725 (lodging, flights, decorations, accessories)
• Bridal shower: $415 (flight, dress rental, miscellaneous costs)
• Dress: $220-$285 (plus alterations)
• Hair and makeup: $175 (plus tip)
• Shoes, jewelry, and nail polish: variable costs
• Gifts: $25-$100 (engagement and wedding gifts)

A Call to Action

To avoid resentment and anxiety over costs, it’s essential for brides and bridesmaids to have open and honest conversations about budgeting. Brides should consider having private conversations with each bridesmaid to discuss their financial situation and plan expenses accordingly. Bridesmaids should be honest about their financial limitations and communicate their concerns early on.

Finding a Solution

By prioritizing expenses and allocating budgets wisely, brides can ensure their bridesmaids don’t break the bank. Consider alternatives, such as DIY decorations or a local bachelorette party, to reduce costs. And remember, a true friend should not expect you to go into debt to celebrate their wedding.

The Bottom Line

Being part of a bridal party is a significant commitment, both emotionally and financially. By having open and honest conversations about money, brides and bridesmaids can focus on what truly matters – celebrating love and friendship.