She Strengthens

Embracing Self-Acceptance: Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations

As I approach my 27th birthday, I’ve come to realize that the past four years have been transformative in many ways. My life has undergone significant changes, from earning a decent income to living with my partner and pursuing my passion as a career. These changes, although gradual, have made a substantial difference in my day-to-day life and self-perception.

The Freedom of Not Caring

One of the most significant lessons I’ve learned is that I care less about fitting into a specific mold or being a certain “type” of person. I’ve shed my self-righteous attitude and learned to appreciate life’s simple pleasures. It’s liberating to acknowledge that it’s okay to enjoy things that don’t align with my values or beliefs.

Guilty Pleasures Are Okay

Take, for instance, my love for watching reality TV shows. I used to refuse to watch The Bachelor franchise, deeming it sexist, shallow, and heteronormative. But I’ve come to accept that it’s entertaining, and I enjoy the ridiculousness of it all. It doesn’t make me any less thoughtful or progressive. I’ve learned to separate my personal values from my leisure activities.

Self-Care Is Not Selfish

Another area where I’ve made significant progress is in embracing my beauty routine. I used to be self-conscious about spending time on my appearance, fearing that it would make me seem high-maintenance. Now, I relish in my skincare regimen, makeup, and hair styling. It’s not about seeking approval from others; it’s about feeling confident and comfortable in my own skin.

Pride in My Roots

Growing up in suburban Atlanta, I used to resent the South for its conservative politics and traditionalism. But moving away gave me a new perspective, and I’ve developed a fondness for the region. I appreciate the food, culture, and people. I’ve learned to embrace my roots and acknowledge the complexity of the South, beyond its negative stereotypes.

The Power of Self-Acceptance

Examining my resistance to embracing these things has been instrumental in my personal growth. I’ve come to understand that people’s choices and preferences don’t define their intelligence, thoughtfulness, or progressiveness. Accepting myself, flaws and all, has boosted my self-confidence and improved my life significantly. It’s a valuable lesson that I hope to continue learning and growing from.