She Strengthens

Embracing Reality: Letting Go of Expectations and Finding Happiness

As a young adult, I thought I had it all figured out. I graduated with a creative writing degree, ready to take on the world. But the harsh reality hit me hard – I didn’t have a job, and I had no idea how to become a professional writer. My ego took a beating, but I refused to let it define me.

The Struggle is Real

I worked a retail job in D.C., making just $10 an hour, and felt like I was stuck in a rut. I’d often cry during my lunch breaks, feeling like I was going nowhere fast. My friends were in the same boat, working dead-end jobs just to make ends meet. We’d commiserate about our lack of progress, drowning our sorrows in wine.

A Lesson Learned

Looking back, I realize that complaining about my situation didn’t change anything. Instead of taking action, I let my expectations of post-grad life hold me back. I was too busy feeling sorry for myself to admit that I wasn’t where I thought I’d be at 22.

Finding Clarity

Now, at 25, I have a clearer understanding of reality. I know that everyone’s path is different, and comparing myself to others is a recipe for disaster. I’ve learned that jobs come and go, but it’s essential to keep pushing forward. Saving money is crucial, and expectations can lead to disappointment. Most importantly, where I am now doesn’t define who I’ll become.

The Comparison Trap

It’s easy to get caught up in comparing ourselves to others, especially on social media. But I’ve learned that other people’s successes don’t diminish my own worth. I’ve stopped envying others’ accomplishments and started focusing on my own journey.

Gratitude and Self-Acceptance

When I lost my job due to budget cuts, I could’ve fallen back into my old patterns of despair. Instead, I chose to be grateful for having a place to stay for free. I’ve learned to be kind to myself and focus on the present moment. I’ve let go of my need for more and more, and instead, I’m cultivating gratitude for what I have.

Embracing Imperfection

Life is too short to waste time whining about setbacks. I’ve learned to love myself, flaws and all. I don’t have to have everything together, and neither do you. Let go of your expectations, ego, and need for comparison. Focus on what you have, and be grateful for it. You’ll get to where you need to be when the time is right.