She Strengthens

Money Lessons Learned Along the Way

As I reflect on my journey, I’ve come to realize that some of the most valuable money lessons I’ve learned haven’t come from grand, life-changing events, but from ordinary, everyday moments. It’s the quiet epiphanies that have helped me redefine my relationship with money and set boundaries that align with my values.

Breaking Free from Family Expectations

Growing up, I often found myself at odds with my parents’ views on money. They’re savers, always preparing for a rainy day, whereas I’ve always been drawn to experiences and travel. As soon as I gained financial independence, I made a conscious effort to create a minimalist lifestyle that reflected my own priorities. Now, when we disagree on money matters, I’m confident in my ability to politely disagree and set boundaries.

Respecting Different Financial Priorities

We’ve all met people who seem frugal or cheap, but I’ve learned to separate their financial choices from personal judgments. Everyone has their own financial goals and priorities, and it’s essential to respect those differences. By doing so, I’ve become more empathetic and less likely to take their choices personally.

Defining My Dream Home

As I search for a new home, I’ve encountered numerous opinions on what I should and shouldn’t prioritize. But I’ve learned to tune out the noise and focus on what matters most to me – a vibrant neighborhood, more space, and a shorter commute. It’s crucial to stay realistic and crunch the numbers, but ultimately, it’s my decision, not theirs.

Distinguishing Between Needs and Wants

Throughout my life, I’ve encountered countless “must-have” lists that have left me feeling anxious and broke. As a new mom, I learned to question these lists and focus on what truly matters. Even when well-meaning friends offer advice, I take it with a grain of salt and prioritize my own needs.

The Influencer Effect

As a self-proclaimed YouTube addict, I’ve fallen prey to the charms of influencers peddling products. But after a costly mistake, I’ve become more discerning. I now recognize that these influencers are businesspeople, not friends, and approach their recommendations with a critical eye.

Setting Boundaries, Finding Freedom

As I’ve grown older, I’ve become clearer about my financial boundaries. By setting these boundaries, I’ve become less judgmental of others and closer to achieving my financial goals. My thirties have been a transformative time, marked by greater financial health and enjoyment. And it’s all thanks to the boundaries I’ve set and the lessons I’ve learned along the way.