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The Unlikely Teachers: What I Learned from My Worst Bosses

When it comes to career development, we often focus on the positive influences in our lives – the mentors, role models, and fairy godmother-esque managers who guide us towards success. However, I’ve come to realize that some of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned have come from my worst bosses.

The Importance of Feeling Valued

One of my worst bosses once told me and my colleagues that we were all replaceable. This comment not only made me feel devalued but also threatened. It’s essential to remember that when you make your employees feel like they can be easily replaced, you’re essentially telling them they don’t matter. This creates a low-morale environment that can lead to talented individuals seeking better opportunities. As an employee, why bother utilizing your skills, experience, and talents if you feel like they’re not appreciated?

Clear Direction is Key

Many of us have experienced jobs or duties that were simply dropped on our plates without clear guidance. This can be frustrating and impede success. As a boss, it’s your job to provide a roadmap for your team members, setting them up for success. This balance between autonomy and clear direction is crucial for achieving success.

More Than Just a Paycheck

A paycheck is not the same as feeling valued. I’ve learned that it’s essential to communicate with your team beyond just feedback or criticism. Desiring praise for your work doesn’t mean you’re too sensitive; it means you’re human. You want to know when you’re doing a good job, and it encourages you to keep working hard.

Private Feedback is Essential

Public criticism can be debilitating. I’ve learned that it’s always better to gently, individually call out mistakes, rather than blasting it in an email or in person. This approach is not only more effective but also more respectful.

Keeping Your Cool

One of my worst bosses had a reputation for losing his temper at the slightest problem. This created a toxic environment where we felt like we were walking on eggshells. I’ve learned that, even when frustrated, it’s essential to take a step back, breathe, and present a calm and rational self.

Avoiding Gossip

I’ve had managers who would vent about other members of the leadership team, making me feel special and trusted. However, I’ve learned that this behavior is not only unprofessional but also toxic. It’s essential to maintain a level of professionalism and respect, even when dealing with difficult situations.

Hiring Smarter Than You

Micromanaging is a surefire way to stifle creativity and productivity. I’ve learned that it’s essential to hire people you trust and give them the space to flex their abilities. This approach not only fosters growth but also encourages talented individuals to stay.

Embracing Change

Some managers fear change, especially if they’re ego-driven and insecure. I’ve learned that being flexible and open to new ideas is essential for growth and success. Industries change, and it’s crucial to adapt and evolve.

Decisiveness is Key

Indecisiveness can be demoralizing and make employees feel like their work is meaningless. I’ve learned that it’s essential to be confident in your decisions and communicate them clearly to your team.

Word Travels Fast

Finally, I’ve learned that being a jerk can have far-reaching consequences. It’s essential to maintain a level of professionalism and respect, even when dealing with difficult situations. Word travels fast, and a bad reputation can precede you.

The Power of Negative Feedback

As a manager, I’ve learned that giving negative feedback is essential for growth and development. It’s daunting, but avoiding it can lead to failure. Learning how to give feedback is a skill that sets you up to become a great boss.