She Strengthens

Redefining Strength in Uncertain Times

Growing up, I was inspired by the concept of “girl power.” Watching Mia Hamm keep up with Michael Jordan in a Gatorade commercial, I believed I could achieve anything I set my mind to. I pursued athletics, developed stamina, and became a team player. As I entered adulthood, I thought I had the tools to succeed in corporate America, where women were breaking glass ceilings. But as a seasoned professional, I’ve come to realize that thriving in the workplace requires more than just being a team player.

The Pandemic’s Unexpected Impact

The COVID-19 pandemic has forced me to reevaluate my understanding of strength. With the burden of independence weighing heavily on me, I’ve had to confront my own vulnerability. The pandemic has disproportionately affected the Black community, and I worry about my family’s safety. I’ve had to come to terms with the possibility that I may not see some of my loved ones again.

Anticipatory Grief and Self-Advocacy

Research has shown that Black Americans, working adults, and children will fall below the poverty line at alarming rates due to the pandemic’s economic impact. I’ve had to acknowledge that my own struggles are part of a larger narrative. I’ve experienced anticipatory grief, a feeling of uncertainty about the future. Journaling has helped me process my emotions and find balance in my thinking. I’ve learned to ask for what I need, whether it’s taking time for myself or declining social invitations.

Finding Solace in Community

In isolation, I’ve found comfort in virtual connections with loved ones. Hosting a virtual watch party for Beyoncé’s Black Is King album brought me joy and a sense of community. I’ve come to realize that my definition of “girl power” has evolved. It’s no longer just about athleticism or corporate success; it’s about self-advocacy, vulnerability, and finding strength in uncertainty.

A New Era of Girl Power

My younger self would be proud of the woman I’ve become. I’ve learned to prioritize my mental wellbeing, express my needs, and find solace in online communities. This is not the girl power I envisioned as a child, but it’s a more nuanced and powerful understanding of what it means to be strong.