She Strengthens

Finding the Right Therapist: A Journey of Self-Discovery

As I scrolled through yet another therapist’s website, I couldn’t help but feel a sense of disappointment. This was the fourth one I’d visited, and none of them seemed to tick all the boxes on my list. That was until I stumbled upon Mary’s website. Her comprehensive approach to mental and spiritual wellness resonated deeply with me, and I felt an instant connection.

A Leap of Faith

I mustered up the courage to call her, despite my growing anxiety. When she answered, her soft tone and quick cadence put me at ease. As we discussed my reasons for seeking therapy, I couldn’t help but notice that she was white. As a black woman, I’ve learned to seek out healthcare providers who share my cultural background, as they’re more likely to understand my unique experiences and concerns.

Cultural Disconnect

Despite my initial reservations, I decided to give Mary a chance. As we began our sessions, I found myself opening up to her in ways I never thought possible. However, there were times when I felt like I had to explain too much about my daily experiences, simply because she didn’t have the same cultural context. At times, I felt like I wasn’t entirely seen or heard.

A Catalyst for Healing

Despite these challenges, Mary’s approach to healing aligned with mine, and I felt that we could work well together. Our sessions sparked a journey of self-discovery, forgiveness, and growth that continued long after our time together. However, I soon realized that I needed a therapist who not only understood the black experience but was living it as well.

The Limitations of Cultural Empathy

When the nation was rocked by the tragic death of George Floyd, I was overcome with grief and sadness. In our subsequent therapy session, Mary tried to console me, but I didn’t want to talk to her about it. I needed to process my emotions within the comfort of my own community. It was then that I realized I needed a therapist who shared my cultural background and experiences.

Embracing My Unique Needs

As I continue on this journey of healing and self-discovery, I’m committed to remaining open-minded while standing firm on my unique needs as a black woman. I’m grateful for the role Mary played in my life, but I know that I need a therapist who understands me on all levels. By embracing my individuality and seeking out the right support, I’m confident that I’ll continue to flourish and grow.