The Forgotten Art of Adult Friendships
As we navigate the journey of life, our priorities often shift, and adult friendships tend to take a backseat to other relationships. But why is that? In our younger years, having a large social circle was a measure of popularity and social status. However, as we grow older, our communities and social connections tend to dwindle. We move away from our childhood neighborhoods, change jobs, and start families, leaving us with limited time for nurturing friendships.
The Unique Challenges of Adult Friendships
Unlike family relationships, which are often involuntary, and romantic partnerships, which have a formal structure, friendships lack a clear framework. This makes it easy for them to fall by the wayside as other responsibilities take center stage. As The Atlantic pointed out in 2015, “Friendships are unique relationships because, unlike family relationships, we choose to enter into them. And, unlike other voluntary bonds, such as marriages and romantic relationships, they lack a formal structure.”
The Importance of Intentional Effort
Maintaining adult friendships requires a conscious effort. It’s not enough to simply assume that friendships will sustain themselves; we need to actively prioritize them. This is where books like Rachel Wilkerson-Miller’s “The Art of Showing Up” come in handy. Wilkerson-Miller emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, communication, and intentional effort in nurturing meaningful friendships.
Lessons in Adult Friendships
So, what can we learn from Wilkerson-Miller’s research and wisdom?
Take Care of Yourself First
You can’t show up for others if you’re not showing up for yourself. Self-development is crucial in building strong, healthy relationships. By understanding your own needs, values, and boundaries, you’ll be better equipped to connect with others on a deeper level.
Put in the Effort
Friendships require work to maintain. Make a recurring plan with your friends, notice the little things that make them happy, and celebrate their wins. These small gestures can go a long way in nurturing meaningful connections.
Communication Is Key
Honest communication is the foundation of any long-term relationship. By being open, vulnerable, and willing to listen, you’ll be able to navigate differences and disagreements, and build a stronger, more enduring friendship.
By prioritizing self-awareness, intentional effort, and communication, we can cultivate strong, fulfilling friendships that bring joy and meaning to our lives, no matter our age or stage.
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