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Motherhood Unscripted: Lessons Learned the Hard Way

As Mother’s Day approaches, I find myself reflecting on the past year of motherhood. My daughter is almost one, and I’m still trying to wrap my head around how fast time has flown by. In the spirit of honesty and transparency, I want to share some hard-won lessons that I wish someone had told me before I became a mom.

Let Go of the Supermom Myth

One of the most important things I’ve learned is that I simply can’t do it all. Trying to be a perfect mom, partner, and person is a recipe for burnout. Instead, I’ve learned to delegate tasks and ask for help when I need it. Whether it’s asking my partner to take care of dinner or hiring a babysitter for a much-needed break, I’ve come to realize that having a support system is crucial.

Take It One Step at a Time

In those early days of motherhood, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer amount of new responsibilities. But here’s the thing: you don’t have to have it all figured out right away. Take things one step at a time, and focus on building one new habit per week. Before you know it, you’ll be navigating this new world with ease.

Get to Know Your Lactation Consultant

If you’re planning to breastfeed, get to know a lactation consultant before your baby arrives. Nursing can be tricky, and having a expert on hand can make all the difference. I learned this the hard way when my daughter was born with a tongue tie – we ended up seeing our lactation consultant twice a week!

Prioritize Self-Care

Taking care of yourself is not selfish – it’s essential. Make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul, whether that’s reading a book, taking a walk, or enjoying a relaxing bath. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Get Moving

Getting outside every day can be a lifesaver. Take a walk, go for a run, or simply sit in a park and soak up some sunshine. Not only will it improve your mood, but it’ll also give you a much-needed break from the demands of motherhood.

Rethink Your Priorities

Becoming a mom forces you to reevaluate what’s truly important in life. Don’t be afraid to let go of things that no longer serve you – whether that’s a toxic friendship or a cluttered closet. By prioritizing what really matters, you’ll create space for the things that bring you joy.

Create a Schedule That Works for You

Gone are the days of a traditional 9-to-5 schedule. As a mom, you may need to work at different times of the day (or night!) to accommodate your child’s needs. Be creative with your schedule, and don’t be afraid to think outside the box.

Ask for Help – and Don’t Worry About It

Finally, don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Whether it’s a family member, friend, or neighbor, having a support system can make all the difference. And remember, there’s no shame in asking for help – it’s a sign of strength, not weakness.