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The Unseen Impact of COVID-19 on Our Sex Lives

As we navigate the challenges of the pandemic, it’s easy to overlook the subtle yet profound effects it’s having on our relationships and intimacy. You might find yourself lying in bed with your partner, feeling a spark of attraction, but simultaneously struggling to access your body’s natural desires. This disconnect can be unsettling, especially when you consider the guilt and anxiety that often accompany it.

What Is Sex Drive, Anyway?

Sex drive is the extent to which we crave sexual pleasure, and it varies greatly from person to person, moment to moment, and throughout our lives. There’s no one-size-fits-all definition of “normal” when it comes to sex drive, and it can be influenced by a multitude of factors, including medications, body image, substance abuse, pregnancy, and relationship conflicts.

The Collective Trauma of COVID-19

The pandemic has brought about a collective trauma, impacting entire communities and societies. This shared experience can manifest in various ways, including epigenetic changes that affect our bodies and minds. It’s no wonder, then, that our relationships to sex are being affected in profound ways.

A Shift in Sex Drive: A Normal Response to Trauma

A casual poll revealed that 91% of participants have experienced a shift in sex drive during the pandemic, with 70% reporting a decrease in their desire for sex. This is not surprising, given the immense stress and uncertainty we’re all facing. Your response to this crisis is valid, whether you’re experiencing an increase or decrease in sex drive.

Finding Your Groove Again

If you’re struggling with mismatched sex drives or feeling disconnected from your body, there are steps you can take to address these issues. Consider exploring sensual touch, creating a “yes/no/maybe” list with your partner, or scheduling sex to take the pressure off. Non-monogamy and low-stakes sex can also be beneficial in rekindling your connection.

Remember, You’re Not Alone

The collective trauma of COVID-19 has brought this experience into many people’s lives, but it’s essential to recognize that mismatched sex drive is nothing new. By acknowledging the impact of this crisis on our relationships and intimacy, we can begin to make small shifts that can have a significant impact. So, take a deep breath, communicate with your partner, and remember that you’re not alone in this journey.