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Unlock the Thrill of Standing Sex

Standing sex positions may seem intimidating, but with the right mindset and techniques, they can be incredibly rewarding. Discover how to transform your vertical play, use your surroundings to your advantage, and incorporate toys for enhanced pleasure.

Redefining Standing Sex

According to body-positive pleasure expert Carly S., standing sex is not just for the athletically inclined. By expanding the definition of sex beyond traditional penetration, standing sex becomes accessible to a wider range of bodies and body combinations. Carly S. notes that standing sex can be visually interesting, create tension in the pelvic floor, and make penetration or orgasm feel different.

5 Standing Sex Positions to Try

With perseverance and the right props, almost any sex position can become a standing sex position. Here are five positions to get you started:

• Kneel, Feel, Squeal: The receiver stands with their back against the wall, while the giver kneels before them, using their hands, lips, and tongue to create pleasure.
• Flipped Tongue-Flicker: The receiver faces the wall, while the licker kneels behind them, using their hands to brace themselves on the wall or reach back to spread their peach-cheeks.
• Bad Dog: The receiver bends over a counter or bathroom vanity with a mirror, allowing both partners to hold onto the counter and watch each other’s facial expressions.
• Nobby-Nocker Doggy: The receiver gets down on all fours, while the giving partner kneels behind them, licking, rubbing, or penetrating their genitals.
• Two-Footed, Hand Hanky-Panky: Both partners drop or unzip their drawers, reaching between each other’s legs while using a finger vibrator or ring vibrator for added pleasure.

Using Your Surroundings

Unless you’re having standing sex in a wide open space, there are always things around you that you can use for leverage. Here are some tips:

• Bend over a counter or table: Use tables, vanities, desks, and countertops to hold onto and bend over.
• Use the wall to your advantage: Lean your weight on the wall, furniture, or door frames to support yourself.
• Try the shower: Take advantage of the privacy and ease of cleanup in the shower, using handrails, no-slip mats, and shower seats for safety.

Boosting Pleasure with Toys and Aids

Toys and props can elevate your standing sex experience. Here are some favorites:

• Sex sling or swing: Wish your partner could levitate without you holding them? Try a sex sling or swing to take your standing sex to new heights.
• Panty vibrator: Clip in a panty vibrator or app-controlled panty vibrator for hands-free stimulation.
• Wand vibrator: Use a wand vibrator to navigate to any part of your body, stimulating your clit or massaging your back.
• Butt plug: Try a butt plug during standing sex for an intense, curved sensation.
• St. Andrews Cross: Use a bondage cross to spread your legs and keep your weight fully supported.

5 Tips for Good Sex, No Matter the Angle

Before you dive into standing sex, remember these essential tips for good sex:

• Prioritize emotional sexual health: Only have sex if you want to, and communicate your needs and wants to avoid harm.
• Have solo sex: Masturbating helps you understand what turns you on and gives you the power to communicate your needs.
• Communicate, communicate, communicate!: Express what is and isn’t doing it for you during sex, and practice asking for what you need outside of the bedroom.
• Explore BDSM: Try predicament bondage, blindfolds, or feather play to add excitement to your standing sex.
• Expand your understanding of sex: Remember that sex is any meaningful act of pleasure, not just penetration. Experiment with nonpenetrative acts like nipple play, cunnilingus, and dirty talk.