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Embracing Your True Self: Beyond Introvert and Extrovert Labels

Growing up, I struggled to define myself as an introvert or extrovert. I was outgoing in social situations, but felt drained afterwards. I loved living on campus, surrounded by friends, but hated sharing a small room with them. When I was asked to categorize myself on the introvert-extrovert spectrum in a psychology course, I was confused.

The Fluidity of Personality

The truth is, we can’t be pinned down to a single label. Our personalities are shaped by various factors, including our upbringing, experiences, and preferences. As someone who’s an only child with chronic illness and anxiety, I need alone time to rest and recharge. This doesn’t mean I’m purely an introvert, but rather, I exist on a spectrum.

Debunking Stereotypes

Pop culture would have us believe that introverts are shy and extroverts are outgoing leaders. But these stereotypes are harmful and limiting. They create a false understanding of ourselves and others. By acknowledging that we can be both introverted and extroverted, we can redefine how we use and recover energy.

Understanding Introversion and Extroversion

These psychological concepts date back to Carl Jung and have evolved over time. Introversion is about being interested in your own mental life, while extroversion is about seeking external gratification. But what if you’re someone who embodies both qualities?

The Ambivert: A Lesser-Known Concept

As a somatic psychotherapist, I’ve learned about the ambivert – someone who has qualities of both introverts and extroverts. This concept can be confusing, but it’s also liberating. It means we don’t have to fit into narrow categories.

Finding Your Balance

Restoring and recharging is crucial for all of us, regardless of our personality type. It’s not just about alone time or socializing; it’s about finding quality time that nourishes our minds and bodies. As someone who’s found balance in their career as a therapist and yogi, I’ve learned to prioritize self-care.

Recharging Stations

Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert, you deserve rest and relaxation. Here are some recharging stations to explore:

For Introverts

• Take a walk in nature alone
• Engage in a crossword puzzle or Sudoku
• Create rituals that allow you to take breaks throughout the day
• Find a TV series that feels uplifting and distracting

For Extroverts

• Have dinner or teatime with friends or co-workers
• Find a new spinning or yoga class
• Take a social media break
• Read your current book club book at the library or favorite bookstore

Or Build Your Own Station!

Experiment with different activities to find what recharges you. Ask yourself:

• Where do you feel you might fall on the spectrum in relation to your recharging needs?
• What tells you that your recharging has been successful?
• Do you feel energized or more joyful?

Prioritizing Self-Care

Remember, we all deserve rest, relaxation, and excitement in our own ways. We deserve to create a life that honors our needs and resists comparison to others. By embracing our true selves, we can find fulfillment and happiness.