She Strengthens

Breaking Free from Unhealthy Obsessions

As I entered my 20s, my health was an afterthought. I’d dabble in working out, only to give up when I didn’t see immediate results. Impatience got the better of me, and I’d ask myself, “What’s the point of exercising if I’m not skinny?” I thought the ultimate goal was to be attractive, not to feel good.

The Cycle of Anxiety and Insecurity

After getting into a long-term relationship, I started to feel uncomfortable in my own skin. Anxiety crept back in, fueled by insecurities about my appearance and my partner’s attraction to me. I’d try to make better food choices and exercise more, but it was tough when I was working long hours at a job I hated. Seeing others’ success on social media only made me feel like I was falling behind. The anxiety cycle would start again, ruining my days over minor setbacks.

A Wake-Up Call

One day, my boyfriend told me he couldn’t say anything without me snapping at him. That’s when I realized I needed to make a change. I was unhappy, irritable, and unable to care for those around me. Social media had created unrealistic expectations, making me believe everyone else was doing better than me.

Reevaluating My Priorities

As I approached my 30th birthday, I looked inward. What did I want out of the last year of my 20s? What kind of energy did I want in my 30s? I realized my toxic work environment was draining me. Leaving that job took a lot of stress out of my life. At my new job, I started packing my own lunches, which helped me feel more in control of my food choices.

Money Matters

I also examined my spending habits. By packing my lunch, I stopped eating out during the week, which made me feel more comfortable with my finances. It reminded me that there’s always food at home.

Mental Health Matters Too

But exercise was still a struggle. I’d get frustrated because I wasn’t dealing with my internal issues. I realized that my mental health needed attention too. I had to want to make changes for myself, not just to look good. Conversations with friends helped me understand that health is more than just physical appearance.

A Shift in Perspective

Exercise and food aren’t just about getting skinnier; they’re about making everyday tasks easier. It’s a lifestyle, not a means to an end. I started working on managing my stress and anxiety by making small changes, like laying out my clothes the night before and creating manageable to-do lists.

Embracing Balance

I’ve finally learned to prioritize my well-being over societal expectations. I don’t deprive myself of treats; I enjoy them in moderation. If I’m sick, I skip a workout without guilt. I’ve learned to let go of unnecessary stress and focus on being happy with where I am.

A New Chapter

As I enter my 30s, I’m grateful for the shift in perspective. I still have a long way to go, but I’m making the right choices for my mental and physical health. I’m excited to grow into a better version of myself, free from unhealthy obsessions and full of balance and self-love.