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Cultivating Deeper Connections: A New Approach to Building Intimacy

In today’s fast-paced world, forming meaningful relationships can be a daunting task. We’ve all heard of the 36 questions to fall in love, but what about building platonic intimacy with friends and loved ones? To help bridge this gap, I’ve created a new set of questions that focus on experiences, values, and identities.

Embracing Vulnerability

Understanding is a powerful love language, and asking the right questions can help us create closeness with others. I spoke to dozens of people to craft a set of questions that revolve around values, upbringing, and personal growth. These questions are designed to help you get to know someone on a deeper level, whether it’s a new acquaintance or a lifelong friend.

Setting the Foundation

To begin, start with simple questions that help establish common ground. These questions can help you understand what someone cares about and who they are as a person.

• Who was your favorite teacher in school and why?
• What’s the meaning of your name, and does it resonate with your personality?
• Are you an animal person, and what kinds of animals do you like?

Uncovering Shared Values

As you delve deeper, ask questions that reveal your values and beliefs. This can help you understand how to support each other and create a sense of mutual respect.

• What’s your favorite sound, smell, and feeling?
• How do you usually respond to stress?
• Do you believe in free will?

Vulnerability and Trust

As you build trust, move on to questions that require more vulnerability. These questions can help you understand each other’s needs and desires.

• Do you feel like there are some things too serious to joke about?
• How often do you cry, and do you cry more than you laugh?
• What are three things you want to have in common with your friends?

Nurturing Growth

Finally, use these questions as a starting point to create a space for growth and understanding. Remember, relationships are a journey, and checking in regularly can help you stay grounded and connected.

• How can I help create a space for you to vent or celebrate?
• What’s the greatest accomplishment of your life, and what are you still hoping to achieve?
• If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone?

By embracing these questions, you can cultivate deeper connections with others and build a stronger sense of community. Remember, understanding is a powerful love language, and asking the right questions can help you create lasting relationships.