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Setting the Mood for a Night to Remember

When it comes to getting intimate, Hollywood often paints an unrealistic picture. In reality, getting in the mood can be a challenge. Whether you’re struggling to feel confident or getting caught up in your thoughts, sometimes all you need is a little prep work to set the tone for a night to remember.

Creating a Sanctuary

The first step in setting the mood is creating a comfortable and relaxing environment. Start by tidying up your bedroom, changing into fresh sheets, and adding some cozy touches like a plush blanket. Consider investing in lightweight, breathable bedding like Brooklinen’s cotton percale sheets or a down comforter from Riley. Adding some greenery to your space can also help create a calming atmosphere. If you’re short on time or not interested in maintaining plants, try artificial options like Der Rose’s potted eucalyptus or a Plant Parent Set from The Sill.

Mood Lighting

Lighting can make or break the ambiance of a room. Harsh fluorescent lights can be a mood killer, while soft, warm lighting can create a sense of intimacy. Try using candles with a gentle, sultry scent like Bath & Body Works’ Vanilla Patchouli or a lighter, fresher scent like Capri Blue’s Volcano. If you’re looking for a more adventurous option, consider Babeland’s massaging wax candles, which can be used for a sensual massage. For a flame-free option, try hanging dim battery-powered fairy lights around your bed frame or on the wall behind it.

Dress to Impress

Putting on a sexy outfit can be a quick confidence booster. Look for lingerie options that make you feel good about yourself, like AvidLove’s lace bodysuit, which is praised for its sizing inclusivity and comfort. And don’t forget, lingerie isn’t just for women – there are options out there for everyone, like Arjen Kroos’ jockstrap or Evankin’s mesh briefs.

Get Your Groove On

Music can be a powerful way to amplify your sexual energy. Create a playlist that gets you in the mood, or try our curated Gettin’ Busy playlist. A bedside speaker like Anker’s alarm clock and phone charger can keep the music playing all night long.

Lube Up

Lubricant can be a game-changer when it comes to comfort and pleasure. Whether you’re using it for penetration, manual external stimulation, or with toys, lube can help reduce friction and increase enjoyment. There are three types of lube: oil-based, silicone-based, and water-based. Water-based lubes like K-Y Liquid are gentle on the skin and easy to clean up, while silicone-based lubes like Wet Platinum can last all night long.

Play and Explore

Investing in your personal pleasure is key to building confidence in the bedroom. Try experimenting with sex toys like vibrators, dildos, anal beads, and penis pumps to discover what you like and don’t like. Start by exploring on your own, then introduce your partner to the idea of using toys during foreplay or sex.

Get Your Mind in the Game

Finally, remember that getting in the mood is just as much about your mind as it is about your body. Take time to relax, practice mindfulness, and let go of expectations. Focus on the sensations happening in your body and stay present in the moment. With these tips, you’ll be well on your way to creating a night to remember.