Embracing Strength, Redefining Femininity
As a woman who lifts heavy weights, I’ve come to accept a fundamental truth: I will gain muscle mass. Despite the myths and misconceptions, the reality is that women who lift weights will build muscle. And I’ve learned to love it.
A Journey of Self-Discovery
My fitness journey began in college, where I struggled to find consistency and community after leaving behind the structure of high school sports teams. I turned to cardio exercises, but they left me feeling unfulfilled and frustrated. It wasn’t until my best friend, a trainer, introduced me to powerlifting that I found my passion. The sensation of lifting weights and getting the work done filled me with pride and confidence.
The Intersection of Race and Gender
As a Black woman, I’ve come to realize that societal expectations and cultural messaging can be particularly damaging. Black women are often pigeonholed as overly masculine and aggressive, and our physical strength is seen as intimidating. Even in the strength industry, Black women like Quiana Welch face criticism and racist comments that strip them of their womanhood and humanity.
Fear of Judgment
I’ve struggled with the fear of being judged or rejected by men due to my passion for powerlifting. I’ve felt pressure to conform to traditional beauty standards, hiding my strength and fitness from potential partners. But the stronger I get, the less I care about what others think.
Redefining Femininity
Powerlifting has helped me redefine what I see as feminine. I’m obsessed with my strength, and I see it as beautiful. I see how my strength has changed my body, and I see that as beautiful as well. Powerlifting has given me control over my health and appearance, and I’ve come to realize that being strong is not only empowering but also deeply feminine.
Breaking Free from Societal Pressure
Through powerlifting, I’ve abandoned the societal pressure to look a certain way. I want my body to perform well, and that mindset has helped me rethink what it means to be feminine. I’ve stopped caring about what others think, and I’ve started to find myself attractive, bulk and all.
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