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Unlocking the Secrets of Sexual Fantasy

When it comes to sex, our minds are capable of conjuring up a vast array of desires and fantasies. From role-playing to BDSM, exploring these fantasies can lead to a deeper level of intimacy and pleasure with our partners. But how do we bring these desires to life, and what are the most common sexual fantasies that people have?

The Thrill of Multiple Partners

One of the most popular fantasies is having sex with multiple partners. This fantasy taps into our desire to be the center of attention and to experience a sense of taboo excitement. According to certified sexologist Gigi Engle, “Bringing a third (or fourth or fifth) person amplifies our feelings of being desired.” To explore this fantasy, consider streaming solo or partnered sex online, attending a sex party or sex club, or using sex-positive apps to find like-minded individuals.

Power Dynamics: Control and BDSM

Another common fantasy involves exploring power exchanges through BDSM. This can include elements of pain and pleasure, which are closely linked in the brain. To bring this fantasy to life, try tying up your partner with rope or handcuffs, engaging in spanking or whipping, or channeling your inner dominatrix.

Keeping Things Fresh: Novelty and Adventure

For many, the thought of having sex in a new or unusual way adds an element of excitement and uncertainty. If you’re looking to spice things up, try a new position or sexual act, have sex in an unusual location, or role-play as characters.

Reimagining Partnership: Non-Monogamy

Non-monogamy is another fantasy that can be appealing, especially for those in monogamous relationships. This fantasy taps into our desire to be desired by multiple people. To explore this fantasy, consider trying a polyamorous relationship, swinging with your partner, or having a poly date night.

Wanting What You Can’t Have: The Taboo and Forbidden

Passion and desire are often amplified when there’s tension or an opposing force involved. If you’re drawn to taboo or forbidden scenarios, try role-playing urine play, licking feet, or sucking toes, or attempt consensual voyeurism and exhibitionism.

More Than Skin-Deep: Romance and Meaning

For some, romance and intimacy are essential components of sexual desire. If you’re someone who needs to feel connected to experience arousal, try planning romantic occasions that prioritize intimacy, such as a beach dinner that turns into passionate sex.

Sex from a New Perspective: Gender-Bending and Sexual Fluidity

As humans, we’re often fascinated by what we don’t have. If you’re drawn to exploring gender-bending or sexual fluidity, try dressing in clothes typically worn by people of a different gender or engaging in a “forced bi” scenario.

Bringing Up Fantasies and Role-Playing with Your Partner

According to Engle, every relationship has three sexualities: the sexual person you are, the sexual person your partner is, and the sexuality you create together. To explore this third aspect, try broaching the subject with your partner by saying something like, “Babe! Let’s explore some of our fantasies and desires together.” You can also create sexual bucket lists to break the ice.

Remember, exploring your deepest sexual desires requires communication and consent. Be safe, have fun, and don’t be afraid to explore your fantasies in whatever way feels most comfortable for you.