Embracing Self-Love and Breaking Free from Toxic Patterns
As I reflect on my past, I’m reminded of my dad’s humorous comment about me being a terrible child. But the truth is, I was mostly a terrible adult. For years, I made mistakes, prioritizing toxic relationships over genuine connections. I’d ditch plans with people who cared about me to chase after those who didn’t. I wasted hours stalking their social media, jeopardizing my self-worth and quality of life.
A Journey of Self-Discovery
It took me a while to realize that I deserved better. I began to focus on cultivating meaningful relationships and learning from my mistakes. This shift in perspective transformed my life. I no longer allow toxic people to occupy space in my mind and heart.
Seeking Advice and Guidance
I don’t believe in doling out advice, but I do believe in sharing experiences and insights. If you’re struggling with something, I’m here to listen and offer guidance. You can ask me anything, anonymously, without fear of judgment.
The Hot Prob: Breaking the Cycle of Facebook Stalking
One common struggle is the urge to stalk an ex on social media, even when we’re happy in our current relationships. I’ve been there too. I used to lurk on my ex’s profiles, wasting time and energy. But I realized that it was taking away from my quality of life and causing unnecessary stress.
The Fine Line Between Curiosity and Obsession
It’s okay to indulge in social media tourism, as long as it doesn’t harm ourselves or others. If it starts to cause stress, sadness, or agitation, it’s time to reassess. Ask yourself: would your partner be upset if they knew? Would you feel embarrassed if your ex knew how often you checked their profiles?
Finding a Healthy Balance
If you can lurk without emotional backlash, go for it. But if it starts to affect your real life and relationships, it’s time to block and move on. There are plenty of adorable animal Instagrams out there, worthy of your attention. Bronson the Bully is a great place to start.
About the Author
I’m Kelly McClure, a writer who has contributed to NY Magazine, GQ, The Hairpin, Rolling Stone, and more. You can find more of my work here.
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