Finding Peace in a Turbulent World: Lessons from a Life of Resilience

The ongoing struggles of systemic injustice and social unrest disproportionately affecting Black communities have been further exacerbated by the pandemic, leaving many feeling helpless and unheard. Amidst this turmoil, a vital question emerges: How can Black Americans find peace in a country that has historically caused them so much pain?

A Life of Legend: Lessons from My Grandfather

I turned to my grandfather, Doss Calvin Bender, a man whose remarkable life is a testament to resilience and determination. From his childhood during the Great Migration to his 27-year tenure as a firefighter and NAACP leader, his story offers invaluable insights into finding peace.

Three Vital Lessons for Finding Peace

Embracing Self-Worth

My grandfather’s journey began with his mother, Celia Mae Bender, who instilled in her children an unwavering sense of self-worth despite facing incredible hardships. He believes that cultivating this confidence is essential for Black people, as it enables us to make tough choices and ultimately find peace.

Community Care

After serving in the Marines, my grandfather became a firefighter in Milwaukee, where he noticed a disturbing trend: the fire department’s entrance exam was rigged to exclude Black candidates. He took action, suing the department and winning a consent decree that led to the hiring of over 1,000 Black firefighters. This experience taught him the value of community care and the impact one person can have on creating positive change. By focusing on helping others, we can find a sense of purpose and satisfaction that brings us peace.

Integrity Above All

When I asked my grandfather for advice on finding peace, he emphasized the importance of integrity. In a world where honesty and authenticity are often in short supply, he believes that being true to oneself is crucial. By staying grounded in our values and principles, we can navigate even the most challenging situations with confidence and find inner peace.

Reflecting on my grandfather’s wisdom, I’m reminded that peace is not a destination, but a journey. It requires patience, self-awareness, and a commitment to living with integrity. By embracing these lessons, we can begin to build a more just and equitable society, where Black Americans can finally find the peace they deserve.