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The Truth About Orgasm Control: Debunking Lasting Longer Myths

Are you tired of feeling like you’re not lasting long enough in bed? Do you worry that your partner is not satisfied with your sexual performance? You’re not alone. Many people struggle with premature ejaculation (PE), but there’s good news: it’s not as uncommon as you think, and there are techniques to help you overcome it.

Defining Premature Ejaculation

So, what constitutes PE? The answer is not straightforward. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition (DSM-5) defines PE as ejaculating within 1 minute of starting penetrative sex, while the International Society for Sexual Medicine (ISSM) suggests that if the time before ejaculation decreases from a longer period to less than 3 minutes, it may be a sign of acquired PE. But what about those who don’t fit these definitions? Should they be concerned about their sexual performance?

The Average Duration of Sex

Research suggests that the average duration of sex before ejaculation is around 5-7 minutes, with a huge range on either side. But here’s the thing: the real benchmark is not about how long you last, but about whether you and your partner are satisfied with your sexual experience. If you’re happy, who’s to say it’s a medical issue?

Lasting Longer: Is it Necessary?

There are many techniques to help you last longer, from tantric sex to kegel exercises. While some may not have scientific backing, they can still be effective. The key is to communicate with your partner and find what works for both of you.

Techniques to Delay Orgasm

If you want to delay orgasm, here are some techniques to try:

1. Kegel Exercises: Strengthen your pelvic floor to intensify your orgasms and gain control over ejaculation.
2. Measured Breathing: Practice slow, deep breaths to cool down your rising sexual energy.
3. Masturbation: Relieve pressure and minimize sensitivity by masturbating before intercourse.
4. Start-Stop Technique: Gain control over your orgasm through a series of ejaculation-control exercises.
5. Pressure Points: Apply pressure to a point just in front of your anus to delay ejaculation.
6. Extend Foreplay: Spend more time on your partner’s pleasure to delay your orgasm.
7. Decrease Sensitivity: Use thicker condoms to reduce sensitivity and delay orgasm.

The Bottom Line

If you’re concerned about your sexual performance, remember that it’s not about how long you last, but about whether you and your partner are happy with your sexual experience. Communication is key, and there are many techniques to help you overcome PE. So, focus on what feels good, and don’t worry about what others think.