The Truth About Orgasm Control: Debunking Lasting Longer Myths

Defining Premature Ejaculation

The concept of premature ejaculation (PE) is often misunderstood. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition (DSM-5) defines PE as ejaculating within 1 minute of starting penetrative sex, while the International Society for Sexual Medicine (ISSM) suggests that a decrease in time before ejaculation to less than 3 minutes may be a sign of acquired PE. However, these definitions don’t account for individuals who don’t fit these criteria. Should they be concerned about their sexual performance?

The Average Duration of Sex

Research indicates that the average duration of sex before ejaculation is around 5-7 minutes, with a significant range on either side. However, the real benchmark is not about how long you last, but about whether you and your partner are satisfied with your sexual experience. If you’re happy, it’s not necessarily a medical issue.

Lasting Longer: Is it Necessary?

There are various techniques to help you last longer, ranging from tantric sex to kegel exercises. While some may not have scientific backing, they can still be effective. The key is to communicate with your partner and find what works for both of you.

Techniques to Delay Orgasm

If you want to delay orgasm, consider trying the following techniques:

• Kegel Exercises: Strengthen your pelvic floor to intensify your orgasms and gain control over ejaculation.
• Measured Breathing: Practice slow, deep breaths to cool down your rising sexual energy.
• Masturbation: Relieve pressure and minimize sensitivity by masturbating before intercourse.
• Start-Stop Technique: Gain control over your orgasm through a series of ejaculation-control exercises.
• Pressure Points: Apply pressure to a point just in front of your anus to delay ejaculation.
• Extend Foreplay: Spend more time on your partner’s pleasure to delay your orgasm.
• Decrease Sensitivity: Use thicker condoms to reduce sensitivity and delay orgasm.

Remember, communication is key, and there are many techniques to help you overcome PE. Focus on what feels good, and don’t worry about what others think.