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Unlocking the Secrets of 69: Expert Tips for a More Intimate and Satisfying Experience

Are you curious about the infamous 69 sex position? Do you want to know how to make it more enjoyable and satisfying for you and your partner? Look no further! As a sex writer, I took it upon myself to investigate the common complaints surrounding 69ing and sought out expert advice from sex educators to provide solutions.

The Intimacy Factor

One of the most common complaints about 69ing is that it doesn’t feel intimate. But, as pleasure-based sex educator Lateef Taylor notes, “69ing is not a position in a football game. If you’re getting into the position mechanically, of course, it’s going to feel un-intimate.” To create a more intimate atmosphere, start with kissing, make eye contact, and engage in fondling before transitioning into the 69 position. Take a moment to express your pleasure and appreciation for your partner, and don’t be afraid to moan – it adds an extra layer of vibration to the experience!

Overcoming Height Differences

Height disparities can make 69ing challenging, but it’s not impossible. Sex educator Lisa Finn suggests having the taller partner lie on their back and using pillows, blankets, or a sex wedge to support their hips. Alternatively, try the sidecar 69 position, where both partners lie on their sides, or incorporate a toy with a long handle and lube to bridge the gap.

Bigger-Bodied Folks, Rejoice!

Body-positive sex educator Carly S emphasizes that mutual oral sex is accessible to everyone, regardless of body type. She recommends using pleasure products as enhancers, such as positioning chairs or sex swings, to support your body and facilitate better access. Don’t be afraid to get creative and experiment with different props to find what works best for you and your partner.

Anxiety and Exposure

Feeling anxious about being “exposed” during 69ing is understandable, but it’s essential to communicate with your partner about your concerns. Talking openly can help alleviate fears and create a more comfortable environment. Remember, your partner wants to make you feel good, and they’ll work with you to find a solution. If needed, try watching queer and feminist porn to help normalize diverse body types and ease self-consciousness.

The Distraction Dilemma

Losing focus while giving head due to intense pleasure is a common issue. However, this can actually be a turn-on for your partner! Having a sex toy and lube nearby can help you stay focused, and remember, it’s okay to take breaks and regroup.

The Bum in Your Face…

Concerns about hygiene and poop residue can be alleviated by showering beforehand or using wet wipes. The entrance of the anus has many nerve endings, making it a pleasurable area to explore. If you’re not comfortable with rimming, consider using a butt plug or tracing your partner’s sphincter muscle with your fingertip.

Making 69ing Your Own

Lastly, remember that 69ing doesn’t have to be solely about licking. Incorporate other moves that your partner enjoys, such as G-spot stimulation, perineum play, or nipple tweaking. Use your hands to stimulate your partner, and don’t forget to lube them up first to reduce friction. With a little creativity and communication, 69ing can become a more enjoyable and satisfying experience for both you and your partner.