Embracing My True Calling
As a 31-year-old bartender, I’ve heard it all before. The condescending remarks, the pitied glances, and the constant questioning of my career choices. “When are you going to get a real job?” they ask, as if bartending is somehow beneath me. But what they don’t understand is that I’ve found my true passion behind the bar.
The Stereotypes That Bind
The most damaging stereotype of all is that bartending is a temporary stopover until we “get a real job.” It’s a prejudice that seeps into every aspect of our lives, from tips and wages to paid leave and respect from customers. It’s a mentality that needs to change.
A Turning Point
I remember a conversation with a coworker that changed my life. It was about shoes – decent shoes, specifically Dansko clogs, which are a staple in the industry. I was hesitant to invest in them because it meant committing to a career I wasn’t sure I wanted. But that conversation forced me to confront my own doubts and fears.
Diving Deeper
Buying those shoes was a signal to myself that I was all in. I was no longer just bartending for the money; I was doing it because it’s what I truly wanted. And it’s not just about making drinks; it’s about creating experiences, interacting with people, and making a difference in my community.
The Unseen Side of Bartending
There’s a whole other side of this industry that takes place off the clock. I write for industry magazines, organize fundraisers, attend cocktail competitions, and contribute to my bar’s menu. I’m working to raise awareness of and combat sexual harassment in bars in my city. It’s a world of creativity, collaboration, activism, and production – everything I’ve ever wanted out of a career.
Embracing My Identity
I’m not just a bartender; I’m a storyteller, a writer, and an advocate. I’ve found my true calling, and it’s time to shed the stereotypes and misconceptions. Bartending is not a “stopover” career; it’s a legitimate profession that requires skill, creativity, and dedication. And I’m proud to be a part of it.
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