She Strengthens

Unleashing the Power of Self-Pleasure

When it comes to masturbation, many of us have mixed feelings. Some may think it’s a natural part of life, while others may be too embarrassed to talk about it. But the truth is, there’s more to learn about sexual pleasure and vaginal stimulation than we often give ourselves credit for.

Breaking Down the Myths

According to Denver-based sex and intimacy coach Irene Fehr, many people with vaginas discover masturbation by accident, while others may not explore it until later in life. In fact, a 2017 survey found that 64% of men had masturbated in the last month, compared to only 40.8% of women. And surprisingly, 8.2% of men and 21.8% of women had never tried it at all.

The Importance of Self-Discovery

So why don’t more people masturbate? It’s not just about cultural prudishness. Fehr believes that the problem stems from the fact that not all people with vaginas are created equal, and what gets one person off may not work for another. Some people may need light touch to stimulate their clitoral nerve endings, while others may require deeper, more energetic stimulation.

Finding Your Groove

The key to unlocking sexual pleasure is to start developing your own sexual fire from within. This means exploring your own body, finding what feels good, and not relying solely on a partner. Fehr recommends setting aside time to get to know your own private parts, using a mirror and your fingers to explore different sensations.

Beyond the Basics

But there’s more to sexual pleasure than just clitoral or vaginal stimulation. Some people can experience cervical orgasms through deep penetration, while others may reach orgasm through nipple stimulation or full-body touch. And then there’s female ejaculation – yes, it’s real!

Getting External Help

If you need encouragement and education, don’t be afraid to seek out external resources. Good sex toy shops, like Babeland or Come As You Are, offer expert guidance and a wide range of products. Apps like HappyPlayTime and OMGYes provide interactive lessons and videos on female anatomy and pleasure. And if you’re struggling with low libido or pain during sex, consider consulting a sex coach or exploring sexological bodywork.

Embracing Sexual Pleasure

Ultimately, the biggest hurdle to overcome is the notion that having a vagina and masturbating is anything but awesome. As Fehr says, “Women enjoying themselves sexually is a taboo,” but it’s time to break free from those societal constraints. Sexual pleasure is for everyone, and it’s time to take control of our own desires.