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Understanding Consent: A Guide to Navigating Trauma and Finding Support

The Importance of Consent

Experiencing sexual assault or rape can be a traumatic and isolating experience. But it’s essential to remember that you’re not alone, and there are resources available to support you. Understanding consent is crucial in recognizing what happened and seeking help.

What is Rape?

Rape is a form of sexual assault that involves penetration without explicit consent. According to RAINN, sexual assault refers to sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the victim’s consent. It’s essential to note that laws regarding rape and sexual assault vary by state, but consent is always the key factor.

Common Scenarios and Questions

Many people are led to believe that an experience isn’t sexual assault because of a certain situation or relationship. However, without freely given, enthusiastic, and continual consent, it’s still sexual assault, regardless of:

• Whether you resisted or not
• Whether you said no or not
• Whether you revoked consent, but the person continued
• Whether you were in a relationship
• Whether you were threatened or manipulated

Times You Can’t Consent

There are situations where consent is impossible, including:

• If you’re a minor (the age of consent varies by state)
• If you’re incapacitated due to drugs or alcohol
• If you’re asleep, unconscious, or drugged
• If you experience cognitive impairment
• If you’re in a relationship where your partner forces or coerces you into intimate acts

What to Do Next

If you’re questioning what happened or feeling overwhelmed, consider calling a rape crisis helpline to talk to someone trained in these matters. They can connect you with resources for next steps.

Resources for Survivors

There are many resources available to support survivors, including:

• Helplines: RAINN (800.656.HOPE) or StrongHearts Native Helpline (1.844.7NATIVE)
• Counseling: Find a therapist who specializes in trauma or sexual assault
• Trauma-informed yoga and other activities
• Online resources and support groups

Remember

Sexual assault is a choice made by the perpetrator, not something the victim or survivor has done. Be kind to yourself and remember that dealing with trauma from sexual assault is an ongoing process that takes time.

Breaking Free from Rape Culture

Rape culture normalizes sexual assault and often leads to minimizing or dismissing trauma. It’s essential to recognize that sexual assault can happen in any situation, not just the ones depicted in media. Don’t let cultural narratives define or influence your story. You and only you decide what’s right for your body.