Finding Identity Beyond the 9-to-5
Growing up, I learned the value of hard work and reliability from my mother, who helped me land a job at her bank when I was just 16. Processing checks for large corporations may have been dull, but it taught me the importance of being dependable and efficient. This strong work ethic stayed with me throughout my career, as I worked my way up the ranks in fundraising for nonprofit arts organizations.
A Dream Job Turned Upside Down
By my thirties, I had reached the pinnacle of my career as the Director of Foundation Relations at the American Film Institute. I was part of an amazing team, raising money for programs I cared about, and I was thrilled. But everything changed when my husband was offered a job opportunity in Albany, New York. I was nervous about leaving behind my dream job, but I was willing to take the leap for our family.
The Unexpected Reality Check
After AFI arranged for me to work remotely for three months, I secretly hoped they would extend my employment. But they didn’t. For the first time in 25 years, I was unemployed, living in a new city with no contacts or job prospects. I soon realized that the arts field in Albany was much smaller than in Los Angeles, and I couldn’t replicate my previous salary or role.
Lost and Alone
As my husband and son thrived in our new home, I fell into a deep depression. I didn’t know what to do with myself, and I resented my family for moving forward with their lives while I felt left behind. I had wrapped my identity up in my work for so long that I didn’t know who I was without it.
A New Chapter Unfolds
One day, on a whim, I wrote a blog post. To my surprise, it resonated with others who shared my passion for writing. Strangers shared my post, and former colleagues told me I’d inspired them. Without any real plan, I began piecing together a career as a freelance writer.
Redrawing Boundaries
As I embarked on this new path, I made a conscious decision to set boundaries. Writing became something I do, not who I am. I’m a mother, a wife, a friend, and so much more than my LinkedIn page. Giving up the mindset that my career defines me has been incredibly freeing.
Embracing the Unknown
I’ve learned to find joy in the process of writing, rather than relying on validation from others. Freelancing has given me the flexibility to be present with my family, and I’m no longer lost. I’ve finally found myself, and I’m excited to see what the future holds.
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