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The Power of Positive Relationships

When it comes to friendships, it’s essential to separate the wheat from the chaff. While it’s entertaining to watch dramatic relationships unfold on TV or read about them online, living through toxic friendships can have severe consequences.

The Benefits of Good Friends

Research has shown that having close friends can improve our mental and physical health, boost our confidence, and provide emotional support. In fact, studies suggest that social connections can even lower our stress levels and improve our heart health.

But What About Toxic Relationships?

On the other hand, bad relationships can have a negative impact on our well-being. Nights out that start with excitement but end in negativity, jealousy, and competition can be detrimental to our mental health. It’s crucial to recognize when a friendship is no longer serving us.

Assessing Your Friendships

To protect your mental and physical health, take two simple steps:

Step 1: Look at the Bigger Picture

Before cutting ties, differentiate between occasional disagreements and genuinely toxic relationships. Remember that even healthy friendships can have triggering elements. Develop boundaries around what you will and won’t accept from a friend, and recognize when those boundaries are being pushed.

Step 2: Ditch the Negative Energy

Once you’re confident that a negative person needs to go, be brave and take action. Instead of ignoring them, consider writing a letter or having an open conversation about your needs. If the dialogue turns sour, prioritize your emotional well-being and cut contact.

Putting Yourself First

Remember, your emotional well-being is more important than any friendship. Make a list of how the person’s behavior is affecting you, and remind yourself of your goal. It’s okay to prioritize yourself and surround yourself with people who uplift and support you.

Quality Over Quantity

Anthropologist Robin Dunbar suggests that our brains can maintain relationships with about 150 people at a time, with only five “best” friends. Focus on nurturing those meaningful relationships, and don’t waste your energy on people who don’t deserve you. By doing so, you’ll be protecting your energy and investing in friendships that truly matter.