She Strengthens

Embracing Self-Awareness: 13 Lessons Learned in My Early Career

The Power of Saying No

One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned is the importance of setting boundaries. I used to agree to tasks, favors, and projects without considering my capacity, leading to broken promises and a reputation as a no-show. I now understand that saying “no” from the start is essential to maintaining integrity and avoiding overcommitment.

Rethinking Career Expectations

In my early days, I believed that making the right decisions in my first year of work would define my entire career. However, I’ve come to realize that careers often take time to develop and may involve false starts. It’s essential to focus on what you truly want to achieve, rather than getting caught up in the pressure of landing a 9-to-5 job immediately.

The Value of Selective Unpaid Work

I’ve learned to be more discerning when taking on unpaid projects. I used to accept projects from companies that could afford to pay me, just to get my foot in the door. Now, I prioritize projects that align with my goals and values, and I’m not afraid to negotiate for fair compensation.

Appreciating Support Systems

I’ve come to appreciate the pure intentions of my parents, who want the best for me. They may not always be right, but they have my best interests at heart. I’ve learned to be less angsty and more open to their guidance.

Negotiating Fair Compensation

In my early days, I believed that anyone offering me money knew the right amount I deserved. I’ve since learned that negotiation is a crucial part of getting paid fairly. Whether it’s a salary or a fee for a project, I now know that I have the power to advocate for myself.

Dressing for Success on a Budget

I used to spend a fortune on “professional” clothes, thinking that I needed to look a certain way to be taken seriously. Now, I know that a few basics can go a long way, and I’ve learned to prioritize quality over quantity.

Evolving Friendships

Not every friendship needs to transition from “school you” to “work you.” I’ve learned to accept that some relationships may naturally fade, and it’s okay to let go. Forcing relationships can be exhausting and ultimately unsustainable.

Being Selective with Job Opportunities

When I started my career, I thought any job was a good job. However, I’ve come to realize that taking on low-value projects can lead to burnout and undervaluing myself. I now prioritize jobs that align with my goals and values.

Creating a Functional Living Space

I wish I’d put more thought into setting up my first apartment. I’ve learned that a well-designed space can increase productivity and overall well-being. It’s essential to consider how you’ll use your space before furnishing it.

Relaxing About the “Race” to Have a Job

In my early days, I felt pressure to land a job quickly, fearing that I’d be left behind. However, I’ve come to realize that this “race” is an illusion. It’s essential to focus on personal growth, explore hobbies, and take time to travel, rather than getting caught up in the appearance of success.

Embracing Side Projects

I used to shy away from side projects, thinking they’d distract me from my main career goals. However, I’ve learned that these projects can help develop new skills, foster creativity, and lead to exciting opportunities.

Cherishing Time with Friends

I wish I’d appreciated the time I had with my “school” friends more. I’ve learned that relationships can naturally evolve or fade, and it’s essential to make the most of the time you have with loved ones.

Embracing Fluid Identity

Finally, I’ve come to understand that my identity is not defined by any one choice or label. I am more than my job, relationships, or education. I’ve learned to be open to change and to focus on personal growth, rather than trying to fit into a predetermined mold.