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Reflecting on the College Journey: A Story of Trial and Error

As I approach the final stretch of my undergraduate career, I’ve found myself reminiscing about the twists and turns that have led me to this point. The journey hasn’t been easy, and I’ve often wondered if I would make the same choices if I had the chance to do it all over again.

A Rocky Start

I began my college journey at a school that left me feeling miserable. I questioned whether it was the school, my roommates, or even my major that was the source of my discontent. In an effort to shake things up, I transferred to another school, and then another. I even took a year off, hoping that a break would help me find my footing. During this time, I switched majors multiple times, eventually settling on one that I’m proud to be finishing with.

Settling for Comfort

Looking back, I realize that I settled on a path that wasn’t entirely aligned with my passions. While I’m proud of my accomplishments, I regret not taking the time to explore my interests more thoroughly. I was one of those students who wasn’t academically, emotionally, or socially ready for college when I applied. I went away to school because it seemed like the next logical step, but I didn’t take the time to consider alternative paths.

What Would I Do Differently?

If I could turn back the clock, I’d take a year off between high school and college to gain some clarity on my goals. I’d also be more cautious about declaring a major too soon, avoiding the risk of wasting time and money on credits that might not be relevant to my future. Perhaps I would have discovered a true academic passion and worked towards it from the start.

Seeking Answers

Recently, I’ve been conducting research by interviewing people in my network about their college experiences, debts, and regrets. I’m not sure what I’m searching for, but maybe I want to hear that it’s all worth it in the end. Or perhaps I want someone to tell me that it’s okay to question the value of a college education.

Regrets and Realizations

The truth is, I do regret going to college when I did. I love learning, and I’m proud of my accomplishments, but I regret the pressure and expectations that drove my decisions. I wish I had taken more time to think about what I truly wanted, rather than letting others dictate my path.

A Message to High School Students

To those who are considering college, I urge you to take a step back and think about what you truly want. Don’t let external pressures force you into a decision that might not be right for you. College is a significant financial and emotional commitment, and it’s essential to be ready on all levels before taking the leap.

The Importance of Options

If we could create a culture that accepts and supports alternative paths for graduating high school seniors, perhaps more students would take the time to reflect on their goals and aspirations. They might consider taking a gap year, pursuing vocational training, or exploring other options that don’t involve immediately enrolling in college. By doing so, they might avoid the regret and uncertainty that I’ve experienced.