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The Unspoken Benefits of Being in a Relationship

As a former leasing office assistant, I’ve seen my fair share of couples searching for their dream apartments in luxurious Manhattan and Queens buildings. They were often relocating from less expensive areas, eager to take advantage of the financial freedom that came with sharing rent. Meanwhile, I was single, struggling to make ends meet, and wondering if having a partner was the key to unlocking a more affordable lifestyle.

The Financial Advantages of Partnership

Fast forward to today, and I’m now in a relationship with my boyfriend, Peter. While we don’t live together, I’ve noticed a significant reduction in my expenses. Take food, for instance. Peter’s meal subscription service often leaves him with extra servings, which I’m welcome to enjoy without paying a dime. I’ve also cut down on grocery shopping, and we’ve reduced food waste significantly. It’s a small but significant perk of being in a relationship.

The Privileges of Partnership Extend Beyond Finances

But it’s not just about the money. Being in a relationship comes with a host of unspoken benefits. You’re assumed to be the plus-one at weddings and family gatherings, and you’re often invited to visit friends in other cities, complete with free accommodation. You can also mooch off your partner’s cable and streaming services, and enjoy the convenience of shared travel costs. Our recent trip to Hudson, New York, was a perfect example – I wouldn’t have been able to afford the luxurious Airbnb on my own, and the shared experience made it all the more enjoyable.

The Draw of Moving In Together

It’s no wonder that many couples are tempted to move in together early on in their relationship. The potential savings are significant, and the convenience of sharing a living space can be overwhelming. But as someone who’s been on both sides of the fence, I’ve come to realize that it’s not just about the financial benefits. It’s about the sense of security and comfort that comes with having a partner by your side.

The Societal Pressure to Be in a Relationship

Unfortunately, being in a relationship often comes with societal expectations and pressures. People assume that you’re automatically happier and more successful once you’re partnered up. But I want to make it clear that my happiness comes from the person I’m with, not just the fact that I’m in a relationship. It’s essential to remember that being single doesn’t mean you’re any less worthy or successful.

A Word of Solidarity to My Former Self

As I navigate this new chapter in my life, I’m reminded of my former single self and the struggles that came with it. I want to acknowledge that being in a relationship can make certain things easier, but it’s not the only path to happiness and success. To my single friends, I say this: don’t feel pressured to settle for someone just to fit into societal norms. You are worthy and capable, regardless of your relationship status.