She Strengthens

Finding Happiness Beyond the Job

When it comes to our careers, we often ask ourselves what truly brings us fulfillment. Is it the work itself, or is it the sense of purpose and identity it gives us? I recently had a conversation with a friend about this very topic, and it got me thinking about my own relationship with my job.

A Balanced Approach

As someone who enjoys writing and running a business, I’ve come to realize that I need a mix of both to feel satisfied. While I appreciate the creative aspect of writing, I also enjoy the entrepreneurial side of things. This balance gives me a sense of freedom and allows me to diversify my skills.

The Dangers of Obsession

Many people, especially those in creative fields, can become consumed by their work. They tie their self-worth to their job, and their happiness is directly linked to their professional success. While having passion and drive is important, I believe that this level of obsession can be harmful. It can lead to burnout, neglect of relationships, and a lack of personal identity outside of work.

Redefining Success

We often celebrate people who are single-mindedly focused on their careers, but what about the cost? The CEO who spends all their time at the office and neglects their family, or the artist who is devastated by a negative review. Is this really what we want to strive for? I think not.

The Rule of Four

To maintain a healthy balance in my life, I’ve created the “Rule of Four.” This means I have four concrete things that bring me joy, make me feel like myself, and require my time and energy. These four things are equally essential to me and can define my happiness on any given day. Right now, my four are my work, my partnerships, cooking, and traveling to see friends.

Prioritizing Happiness

By having these four pillars in my life, I’m able to take the focus off my job and prioritize my overall happiness. Cooking a delicious meal can turn a bad work day around, and planning visits with friends gives me something to look forward to. My work is important, but it’s not the only thing that brings me fulfillment.

A Life of Balance

In the end, I don’t want to be the person who has achieved professional success at the cost of everything else. I want to be happy, and I know that requires balance. By prioritizing my relationships, hobbies, and personal growth, I’m able to maintain a sense of purpose and identity outside of my job. This is what truly brings me fulfillment.