She Strengthens

Embracing My Own Timeline

As I scroll through social media, I’m reminded that life is constantly in motion. Friends are getting engaged, having babies, and checking off life’s milestones at an alarming rate. Meanwhile, I’m over here retooling my mental list of celebrity crushes – priorities, right?

The Pressure to Keep Up

After college, it seemed like everyone was pairing up and starting families. I, on the other hand, dove headfirst into freelance work and writing for local newspapers. Seeing my name in print gave me a thrill that rivalled the excitement of a new relationship. But when I heard about an old friend’s pregnancy, I couldn’t help but question my own decisions. I reflected on my unchecked boxes in my dating life and compared my accomplishments to everyone else’s.

Different Strokes for Different Folks

What I prioritize may not be what someone else prioritizes, and vice versa. Right now, I’m focused on advancing my career instead of scouring dating apps or bars. After being laid off last year, I’m still plotting my next move. The idea of putting effort into finding someone new instead of finding new work seems daunting.

Accomplishment Beyond Relationships

As I enter my thirties, many of my friends and family are getting engaged and married. It’s heartwarming to see relationships blossom, but I don’t need a romantic partner to feel accomplished. My career may not offer the same warmth, but it still feels amazing to earn a new title after a hard-won promotion.

The Comfort of My Own Bubble

I’ve been lucky enough to work from home for the past five years, relishing my independence and freedom. While distant relatives worry that I’ll never meet anyone if I don’t venture out, I’m content in my bubble. Without the distractions of a romantic relationship, I can focus on my professional goals and check off boxes on my list.

Everyone’s on Their Own Timeline

As Julissa Loaiza said, “You’re not falling behind, it’s just not your time.” Those words are a comforting reminder during moments of uncertainty. I see others progressing in their lives, and I wonder if I’ve fallen off track. But I’m embracing my career-oriented way of life, and I’m not ruling out the idea of starting a family in the future.

Grateful for My Life

These are the choices I’ve happily made, and I’m grateful for the life I already have. It’s hard to pine for something I don’t necessarily miss. Sure, there are moments when I wish I was in a relationship, but they’re fleeting and usually triggered by rom-coms or weddings. I have a strong relationship with my family, a solid group of friends, and two awesome dogs. My heart overflows with gratitude for the incredible people surrounding me. I may not be heading down the aisle anytime soon, and I’m okay with that.