Breaking Free from the Cycle of Comparison
As a naturally competitive person, I’ve always found myself measuring my success against others. But I never stopped to think about the strategies and hard work that went into achieving those goals. In high school, I envied my friend’s 4.0 GPA, without considering the extra effort she put into studying and earning top grades. This pattern continued into my adult life, where I developed salary envy.
The Illusion of Fairness
After graduating from college, I assumed I’d land a high-paying job, just like my friends who seemed to be doing better than me. But I didn’t take into account our differing degrees, professional goals, and industries. When I got my first job, making significantly less than my friend, I was disappointed and frustrated. I felt like I was being unfairly compensated, without realizing that I was comparing apples and oranges.
A Wake-Up Call
It wasn’t until I joined a secret Facebook group where women shared their salaries, job titles, and struggles that I had a reality check. Reading about women from various industries and backgrounds, I began to see that everyone faces financial struggles and uncertainties. I realized that my competitive nature was holding me back from focusing on my own goals and growth.
The Power of Transparency
When I shared my own salary and struggles, I felt empowered. The virtual conversation with hundreds of women put things into perspective, and I understood that salary transparency is key to achieving equal pay. By keeping our salaries secret, we’re perpetuating the issue. I realized that I should be proud of my friend’s accomplishments, not compare myself to them.
Finding My Why
My desire for a better salary wasn’t just about keeping up with others; it was about creating a better life for myself. I began to focus on building multiple streams of income, pursuing my passions, and taking action towards my goals. I started writing a business plan, pitching to publications, and turning my dreams into a reality.
A New Perspective
I’m grateful to have found a community that showed me a different side of myself. This shift in perspective has made me proud to be a woman and a stronger advocate for equal pay and salary transparency. Comparison can be a good thing if you know how to channel it into positive action. Now, I do.
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