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Embracing the Comfort Zone: Why I’m Happy to Stay with My Parents

After graduating from college in 2017, I returned to my hometown in Hawaii to live with my parents and focus on finding a job. By December 2018, I had been working for a year and five months, and I set a vague goal to move out of my parents’ house sometime in the new year. I thought that if I didn’t take the leap, I’d never feel ready. But, I’ve come to realize that my initial motivation was rooted in superficial reasons.

Rethinking My Priorities

My original plan was to use my freelance writing side hustle to supplement my income and eventually move out. However, I only started gaining momentum a month ago, and it’s not yet a consistent source of income. I’ve been taking on low-paying projects and learning to finish them faster. I’ve also helped a friend with website content updates, but it’s not a steady gig.

Career Ambitions Take Center Stage

Lately, I’ve shifted my focus to pursuing a career in marketing. I’m now prioritizing publishing pieces, volunteering to write informational content, and refining my skills. These projects might not generate immediate income, but they hold long-term value. I’m devoting more time to learning and researching potential job opportunities, and I appreciate the convenience of working from my parents’ home.

The Value of Savings and Enjoyment

Truthfully, I could afford to move out now, but I’d have to be extremely frugal and sacrifice my savings goals. By staying with my parents, I can continue to save aggressively and indulge in myself occasionally without worrying about the financial burden.

Letting Go of Insecurities

Initially, I wanted to move out because I felt ashamed about living with my parents. But, I’ve come to realize that my reasons were superficial. Once I acknowledged this, I stopped caring about what others might think. I know I’m living with my parents to achieve a greater goal, not because I’m lazy. In Hawaii, many young people live with their parents due to the high cost of living, and it’s culturally acceptable in my Asian American community.

A Win-Win Situation

I’ve decided to prioritize my savings fund and career over moving out. I’m grateful for my parents’ support and contribute to the household by doing chores, cooking, and helping with technology issues. It’s a mutually beneficial arrangement that allows me to focus on my goals without added stress.

About the Author

Carole is a creative individual who expresses herself through writing, breakdancing, and singing. She values her independence but also appreciates the comfort and support of her parents’ home.