She Strengthens

The Dark Side of Startup Culture

Blinded by Hope

Startup companies are often romanticized as hubs of innovation and creativity, but the reality is far from glamorous. Without sufficient funding, these ventures rely heavily on the sweat equity of their employees, offering stock options instead of decent wages. I’ve experienced this firsthand, having gone through the startup grind four times. While some experiences were invaluable, others left me feeling exploited and burned out.

The Myth of Unity

When you join an early-stage startup, you’re often fed a narrative of unity and shared sacrifice. You’re told that everyone is in this together, working tirelessly towards a common goal. But beneath this façade lies a dangerous mentality that enables companies to take advantage of their employees. You’re made to feel that if you don’t put in the extra hours, the entire operation will collapse. This pressure can be overwhelming, especially for those new to the industry.

The Reality Check

My first startup experience was a prime example of this toxic dynamic. I worked long hours, often earning less than minimum wage, and was constantly on call. I thought I was doing the right thing for the team, but in reality, I was sacrificing my own well-being for a company that didn’t prioritize my needs. We weren’t curing cancer; we were building software for retail and hospitality businesses. We deserved better.

Living on a Shoestring

During my time at startup #1, I earned a meager stipend, most of which went towards rent. I was expected to be available 24/7, taking investor calls and customer queries at ungodly hours. I lived in the “company house” to make ends meet, sacrificing my personal life and relationships. When you’re young and fresh out of college, you might have the energy to sustain this lifestyle, but what’s the point?

Loyalty is a One-Way Street

Companies will always prioritize their bottom line over their employees. When my startup suddenly laid off staff without warning, I realized that my loyalty had been misplaced. The company didn’t owe me anything, and I certainly didn’t owe it my life.

Lessons Learned

In hindsight, I should have left that company much earlier. While I gained valuable skills and friendships, I lost out on savings, time, and meaningful relationships. I encourage anyone considering an early-stage startup to be cautious. Give it your best, but don’t give it your life. Advocate for yourself, and be prepared to walk away if you’re not fairly compensated or valued.

Remember, Your Life is Worth More

Enjoy the creative freedom and flexibility that startups offer, but don’t let the hustle consume you. Prioritize your well-being, and don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. Your life is worth more than any stock option or company loyalty.