Navigating the Male-Dominated Workplace: Lessons Learned
As women, we’ve all heard the horror stories about working with men. But when we find ourselves in a male-dominated work environment, it can be a different story altogether. I’ve learned some valuable lessons from my own experiences, and I’m sharing them with you.
Asking Questions Without Fear
Early on, I was hesitant to ask questions, fearing my male superiors would judge me as inexperienced. But after working with a female-led team on a side gig, I realized I was more comfortable asking questions when women were in charge. Now, I push past my fear and ask what I need to know.
Laughter and Boundaries
I appreciate the banter with my coworkers, but there’s a line that shouldn’t be crossed. I’ve learned to politely decline laughing at inappropriate jokes, even if it means sitting in awkward silence. It’s essential to set boundaries and prioritize my own comfort.
The Power of Conversation
My male superiors’ attempts to make small talk can be both heartwarming and stressful. While I appreciate their effort, I sometimes overthink my responses. With time, I’ve learned to relax and enjoy the conversation, knowing they appreciate my effort too.
Taking Initiative
At first, I avoided making coffee because I didn’t want to be seen as the office caretaker. But when I discovered a coworker made coffee out of kindness, I started taking turns making it too. It’s okay to take initiative and do things for myself, without feeling obligated to do everything for others.
Asking for Help When Needed
When I faced a tight deadline, I freaked out and sought help from my supervisor. To my surprise, he gave me extra time, and it wasn’t a big deal. I learned that asking for help or time when needed is essential, and it’s not a sign of weakness.
Dealing with Disappointment
When faced with another deadline crisis, I realized my supervisor’s disappointment was likely due to his own pressures, not just mine. I learned to talk it out with friends, prioritize my own needs, and find a balance between taking responsibility and passing the buck.
The Double-Edged Sword of Competition
Working with colleagues in similar positions can spark competition, which can be both motivating and destructive. I’ve learned to acknowledge my feelings, write them down, and focus on my own goals, rather than comparing myself to others.
Navigating Difficult Coworkers
One female coworker’s condescending behavior had me questioning my own perceptions. But after discussing it with my therapist, I realized it was her behavior, not mine. I learned to pick my battles, assert myself, and prioritize my own needs in difficult situations.
These lessons have helped me navigate the male-dominated workplace with more confidence and self-awareness. Perhaps the most important takeaway is that dealing with anxiety in any workplace is crucial, and working in a male-dominated environment simply adds an extra layer of complexity.
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