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Embracing 30: A Journey of Self-Discovery

As I approach my 30th birthday, I find myself reflecting on the past decade and contemplating what lies ahead. This series, What 30 Really Looks Like, is a candid exploration of women’s lives at this pivotal age. We’re talking to women from diverse backgrounds about their experiences, challenges, and advice for their younger selves.

Meet Christine: A High-Achiever in the Healthcare Industry

Christine, a director at the American Diabetes Association, shares her story of navigating her 30s. She’s recently married, living in Denver, Colorado, and juggling multiple income streams. Despite her accomplishments, she’s aware that life can take unexpected turns.

A Financial Snapshot

Christine’s total yearly income is around $180,000, with a monthly mortgage of $2,500. She’s fortunate to have escaped college and grad school debt-free, thanks to generous parents and a teaching assistantship. However, her husband carries a significant burden from a private grad school. They prioritize saving and enjoy international travel and luxuries, but recognize the need for policy changes to support families.

Reevaluating Expectations

At 20, Christine envisioned herself married with kids and a dog by 30. However, she’s come to realize the challenges of raising a family in the United States, particularly without adequate support systems. She’s grateful for prioritizing experiences over material possessions in her 20s.

An “Ah-Ha” Moment

Christine recalls a humbling experience when she forgot her phone charger during a work trip. The realization that she had to take responsibility for her own problems marked a turning point in her transition to adulthood.

Education and Career

Christine holds a bachelor’s in political science and a master’s in public health, both of which she uses daily. She advises against accumulating excessive debt for education and emphasizes the importance of having a clear vision before pursuing a graduate degree. She also stresses the value of internships, networking, and creating business cards.

Relationships and Friendships

Christine’s friendships have evolved, with deeper connections but fewer acquaintances. She prefers spending time with friends engaging in productive activities, such as exercise or outdoor pursuits. Her romantic life has taken a more traditional path, with a five-year age gap between her and her husband.

Career Advice and Regrets

Christine’s best career move was joining professional councils and attending conferences. She regrets not being more intentional about her education choices earlier on. Her advice includes inviting mentors out for coffee, smiling often, and creating business cards.

Embracing Change

Christine has adopted healthier habits, such as drinking 80 ounces of water daily and taking vitamins regularly. She’s learned to prioritize her desires and say no to commitments that don’t excite her.

Looking Ahead to 40

Christine envisions a life of travel and financial freedom by 40. While she’s on track to achieve this, she’s already anxious about saving for retirement.

Words of Wisdom

Christine’s advice to those in their mid-20s is to exercise daily, limit social media, and start an IRA as soon as possible. She also encourages women to maintain their independence and individuality, even in marriage.