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The Hidden Values of the Wealthy

When we think about economic inequality, we often focus on the visible differences in material wealth. But beneath the surface, there’s a more profound divide – a difference in values.

A Glimpse into the World of the Elite

In 2017, I embarked on a journey that would change my perspective forever. I moved to China to work as an au pair for a wealthy family. As I navigated their world, I was struck by the vast chasm between their values and mine. Despite my initial culture shock, I soon realized that it wasn’t the Chinese culture that puzzled me, but the culture of wealth.

The Obsession with Prestige

My experience revealed that the wealthy are fixated on prestige. Every aspect of their lives is designed to showcase their status, from the schools they attend to the brands they wear. It’s not about quality; it’s about the image they project. I saw this firsthand when my employer was more concerned with the reputation of my college than my qualifications as a caregiver. This fixation on prestige is not unique to China; it’s a global phenomenon that perpetuates inequality.

The Allure of Exclusivity

The wealthy crave exclusivity, and they’re willing to pay for it. From private resorts to VIP events, they seek experiences that set them apart from the rest. This desire for exclusivity creates a sense of superiority, reinforcing the notion that they are special and deserving of privileges that others can only dream of.

Hard Work: A Conditional Value

While the wealthy often tout the importance of hard work, it’s a value they reserve for themselves. They worked hard to get where they are, but their children are often exempt from this expectation. I witnessed this firsthand when I was tasked with doing a 10-year-old’s homework because it wasn’t worth her time. The wealthy can bypass hard work for a fee, as evident in the recent university admission scandals.

“Authenticity” as a Commodity

The wealthy romanticize the struggles of the poor, but only if they produce art or cultural experiences that can be consumed. They’re willing to pay top dollar for handmade crafts, independent films, and underground music scenes. However, this pursuit of “authenticity” often leads to gentrification, pushing out the very cultures they claim to admire.

A World Built on Privilege

My experience in the world of the wealthy left me feeling disillusioned and humbled. It’s essential to question the values that govern our society, where privilege is often seen as a prerequisite to comfort and influence. We must ask ourselves: Is a world built on prestige, exclusivity, and conditional values a world worth maintaining?