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The Unseen Consequences of Being Scammed

2021 has already proven to be a year of unexpected twists and turns. In January, I discovered that I, along with several other young women, had fallen victim to a sophisticated money scam. The experience has left me reeling, with emotional scars that still linger. While I could write a book about the warning signs I ignored and the lessons I’ve learned, the most challenging part has been coming to terms with the trauma and emotional turmoil that follows being scammed.

The Scam Unfolds

In June 2020, I began freelancing for a company that promised to empower women in business. The CEO’s charismatic persona and the company’s polished online presence made me believe I had found a like-minded leader. I was contracted to write articles and eventually launched my own podcast, Office Politics, as part of their network. However, as time went on, red flags began to appear. Payments were consistently delayed or made through unconventional means, and excuses were always accompanied by emotional appeals.

The Aftermath

When I finally realized the truth, I was left with a sense of shame and self-doubt. The experience has permanently changed me, and I believe it’s essential to share my story to connect with others who have gone through similar ordeals. Being scammed by a career criminal doesn’t just “suck”; it evokes deep emotions that can be debilitating.

The Stages of Being Scammed

As I reflect on my experience, I’ve identified five stages that I’ve gone through:

Denial
At first, I thought it was all just a massive mistake. I couldn’t fathom that someone would intentionally deceive and exploit others. As I learned more about the scam, I realized that I had been living in a fantasy world, ignoring red flags and excusing suspicious behavior.

Anger
As the truth sunk in, I felt a surge of anger and hysteria. I was furious with the scammer and myself for being so naive. I replayed our interactions in my mind, wondering how I could have been so blind.

Anxiety with Others
The experience has made me question my relationships with others. I’ve become more cautious, wondering who else might be hiding behind a mask of deception. It’s a feeling that’s hard to shake off, even with loved ones.

Anxiety with Myself
I’ve struggled with self-doubt and anxiety, wondering if I attracted this situation into my life or if I’m somehow to blame. It’s a toxic cycle of thoughts that can be overwhelming.

Acceptance
I’m still working towards acceptance. I know that I didn’t bring this on myself, and that there are people who will stop at nothing to exploit others. I’ve learned to be more vigilant, to trust my instincts, and to prioritize my own well-being.

The Road to Recovery

Being scammed is a traumatic experience that can have long-lasting effects. It’s essential to acknowledge the emotional toll it takes and to seek support from loved ones and professionals. By sharing my story, I hope to connect with others who have gone through similar experiences and to encourage them to speak out.